Dose of Delusion
Two professionals serving up witty banter, unfiltered opinions, and contagious laughter. Join us in Dose of Delusion as we dissect life's absurdities and navigate the world with humor and touch of delusion.
Dose of Delusion
Real Housewives, ADHD, and Personal Growth.
In this podcast episode, AJ and Jay candidly discuss their experiences with ADHD, from childhood to adulthood, highlighting the impact it has had on their academic pursuits and daily lives. They share humorous anecdotes, reflections on evolving perceptions of ADHD, and emphasize the importance of managing the condition for a better quality of life. The episode then takes a turn to the world of reality TV, focusing on the dynamics of friendship and rivalry among the 'Real Housewives.' The hosts delve into the drama, antics, and cultural phenomenon of these shows, drawing parallels to their own struggles with confrontation, friendships, and relationships. The discussion also touches on the pervasive influence of social media algorithms, with the hosts sharing their experiences of navigating digital rabbit holes. The episode concludes with a mix of personal growth stories, pop culture debates, TV show banter, and an invitation for listeners to join the ongoing conversation on social media.
Hello, hello, hello and welcome back to your dose of delusion. It is me, your Shuli, your host, Jay, and I am sitting right in front of the stylish, thoughtful, courageous, pensive quintessential AJ, AJ, how are you Tell me everything?
Speaker 1:Hi, um, hello, I am. I'm doing well, I am. I don't even know what day it is. Oh, it's the first of the month.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:So it's a whole. Where did January go?
Speaker 2:You think Okay, yeah, and though it did fly by it did.
Speaker 1:I was literally just in Houston celebrating New Year's and had a crazy fun time and I was just in. I feel like PV and Christmas was like 90 days ago at least.
Speaker 2:I didn't get that feeling for the first half of January. I was like this is also dragging. But I do think this last half really did speed up for me a little bit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, lots going on though, lots going on, just life.
Speaker 2:No, for real. I think the reason why it's better for me is when you have something to do that you're procrastinating for, and then that's when time flies. That was me. I had a really big project that had to work on that I kept pushing off because there's plenty of time, plenty of time, and next thing you know it was due.
Speaker 1:Why do we do that? I find that I love to procrastinate and that's toxic behavior like 101.
Speaker 2:Is it the ADD in you?
Speaker 1:You know when I'm undiagnosed.
Speaker 2:Did you know they want to put ADD included into spectrum?
Speaker 1:It's not.
Speaker 2:Okay, I know I'm asking no it wasn't for years, but I think it is finally included as being in the spectrum, Obviously in the very earlier side of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, interesting. Well, I mean, there's just so many different, the brain is just so. We still don't know anything, everything about it. You know what I mean? There's just so much to be found out about, and everything is just interesting.
Speaker 2:I really love this new adult ADD, as they call it, because I was diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and I got put on a Ritalin. And I'm talking this was, I want to say, second, second, third grade and maybe like fourth grade. But they put me in a Ritalin and it helped a lot. But that drug was just straight crack. You know what I mean. It's been outdated.
Speaker 2:They use different drugs now but I remember being on Ritalin and hating how it made me feel it just like zoned me out. I couldn't focus on anything and had to go to my doctor and be like I don't want it. He was like but you need it, but no, he ended up phasing me out and then I never switched to a new drug, I just dealt with it.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was pretty horrible, but I got diagnosed really early in life and now there are adults that are realizing I think I have ADD and they're talking to their doctors about it and they're finally getting treated and medicated and it's making a huge difference in their lives.
Speaker 1:Wow, okay. So when I was in high school, I was always a C student, just like scraping by or whatever, and when they started looking into it, I was acing my test and exams, but I never did the homework. I never. I would rather be doing something else or couldn't concentrate on it, whatever. So I went, we went to go see a doctor or whatever, and they tried prescribing me something and my mom was like absolutely not. So went to a different therapist and we took the test and everything and my mom had to take one, two teachers had to take one, I had to take one, and just the way it ended up coming out with the testing, I was borderline.
Speaker 1:ADD in this window where it was like okay, you're not fully there, but you're kind of there, and I'm like well, my mom was probably like this is not my son and making it so extreme.
Speaker 1:The opposite, because she just did not want me to be one of those kids that was just having to be on this medication. She was very anti that or whatever, and she was fine with me being a C student or whatever. So she knew, I think, the fact that it was like AJ, you could get these good grades. Why aren't you doing the homework? I never see anytime I ask, do you have any homework? You always say no and I'm like, well, yeah, because I'd rather be outside or doing something else. I wanted to hang out with friends or doing other activities. I didn't want to be stuck at home doing math problems.
Speaker 2:I was the same way. I was also a C student and it was only because I didn't care to apply myself and if I did I'd do phenomenal but I just didn't care to. I wanted to be doing the other thing, same thing not doing homework or not doing, or worse, I would do the homework and just not turn it in. So we'd get called in for a parent-teacher conferences and I'd be like, oh well, aj hasn't done this. She's like, yeah, he did, we worked on it together. And go to my backpack and there's all three weeks worth of homework and my mom's like what the fuck is wrong with you?
Speaker 1:Why not turn that in, though? I just wasn't doing it, I was just like no.
Speaker 2:It was all part of my severe ADD kind of thing, but I did kind of suffer or live with that Pretty much throughout my entire young adolescence and it wasn't until middle school that I was able to kind of control it, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2:But I remember having countless conversations with my doctor and then also with my school nurse and God bless her soul, because she would actually pull me aside a couple times a week and just like how are you and they pretty much be therapists for the most part Back when they could beat you in school, she didn't. She talked to me instead.
Speaker 1:I love it. I just think I feel like it's not necessary sometimes and if you do find it is honestly like a chemical imbalance and some could fix it by focusing on some other things and the chemical imbalance maybe fixes it, but some just can't without that proper dosage of whatever medication it may be. So if it works, it works, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. But I just remember my mom being very strong and like, no, this is not going to be what my son is and I was just like, ok, maybe I would have been an A student or whatever, but it wasn't. But it's fine, it is what it is. I love who I am and I love me.
Speaker 2:No, I did not. I did not growing up, but it has helped me in some cases. Now I know a lot of professionals and even the studies and tests. As much as we think we can multitask, they say we really cannot and they've done these studies. But I remember when I first got into the little career history of me, I was an EMS.
Speaker 2:I was a medic for technically I still am for years. When I first got into the field, one of my instructors when I first went to my very first class and he was like you're obviously very ADD, but it's going to benefit you in this field having to keep track of multiple things at one time.
Speaker 2:And that might have been a mind over matter thing, but when he told that was the first person to ever tell me that, and when he told me that, I was like all right, I'm going to use this disability to my advantage and obviously it paid off very well. There were times when it doesn't. I remember another little brief thing of mine. Once upon a time I used to be a restaurant manager. People would follow me around and they would actually I don't like being touched, right, I just don't like being touched a lot of times for different reasons. But they knew that.
Speaker 2:So what they would do is I would forget things very easily. They would grab onto my shirt sleeve and like follow me around so that I wouldn't forget the task. I needed to take care of them at the moment, because if I didn't do it at the moment, it's gone, it's out of my head. Even now. I will email like my team, or I'll be like hey, you know, if you email me something and I don't respond, received and processed. It didn't happen, I didn't do it. So don't be afraid to email me two or three times Like, I'm not gonna get offended, it's just, I know how I work and you need to know how I work. So yeah, so ADD is still very prevalent in my life.
Speaker 1:I just learned ways to work around it.
Speaker 2:I work through it. I should say, right, yeah, same same Funny thing you said about being a C student. Just last night I was having a conversation with my friend. She makes fun of me because she's a really good friend of mine and she's a teacher. She's been teaching for I don't know 19 years now and she's always telling me because I was told I was in.
Speaker 2:GT one time and she's like no, you weren't. They just told you that that was called tutoring. Oh no, it's all out of fun and why not? But I would tell them I was like yeah, I was like they put me in GT and I got bored with that too. It was just, you know, I just didn't know how to hone in and how to like you know, work through it at that younger age.
Speaker 1:They wouldn't put a C student in GT FIF Well whatever.
Speaker 2:And then I also told them one time I said I was in a math. It was like not math, at least that's very mean girls. I was in like an extra, like math club, and she's like honey, that was tutoring. I was like no, I won prizes. But I look back I'm like I think it was tutoring.
Speaker 1:You know, math was never my forte. You know, when it comes to like money and stuff, absolutely I didn't know how to count that. But like I'm like, why are there letters in math? Or why are there shapes in math? I don't get it.
Speaker 2:I have never once used the Pythagorean theory in adult life. I promise you. You probably have A squared plus B squared equals C squared.
Speaker 1:Wait, what is that?
Speaker 2:That's the Pythagorean theory.
Speaker 1:Oh, I thought I was thinking about something else. Imagine, imagine.
Speaker 2:No, I do love math. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's the same in every country. Okay, oh, speaking of that, I do have a small dose of reality.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So Jacob Bellority? We said he was like English, he's actually Australian.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was brought to my attention. I of course I double checked it really quick. But yeah, he's actually Australian. I thought he was English as well. To me anybody with an accent is English, so my God, why do we do that Same?
Speaker 1:but I'm glad we're able to like, admit you know.
Speaker 2:No, of course we have to. We have to, obviously. I'm still obsessed with that.
Speaker 1:and bathwater, oh well bathwater, oh my, I mean salt burn. Oh my, if you haven't seen it.
Speaker 2:That's where you guys need to see it. Speaking of anything, what have you watched lately?
Speaker 1:I have. Are we talking TV or movies? What are we talking?
Speaker 2:about Either. I caught up on some TV recently.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty excited about that you know I did. I did kind of binge and catch up on my Salt Lake City Real Housewives stuff. I'm not fully caught up with Beverly Hills. I did start Potomac so I've been on like a little Bravo binge with the Housewives. You know, yes, so I'm not fully caught up on everything where it's current, but I saw the three-part reunion of Salt Lake City.
Speaker 2:I am actually so happy that Bravo kind of did away with a separate Bravo app and I think they still have it and whatnot. But I remember a couple of years ago when I was trying to catch up on shows and, not having cable, had to like download a Bravo app and I kind of watched like three episodes for free without having to pay. It was super annoying. But now they're all on Peacock.
Speaker 1:Yes, which already have Peacock Peacock is, I think, bravo is under Is they're parent companies? Nbc, right yes, right yeah, so it's their parent companies.
Speaker 2:So we have everything there. But yeah, no, I caught up on it also Go ahead.
Speaker 1:No, I mean for you know. Okay, I didn't realize until Mary Cosby didn't-.
Speaker 2:I have thought of her.
Speaker 1:I didn't realize she didn't have a snowflake. I thought she was back as full on, but no, she was just a friend of the show. And I can't stand her. But I mean, she's listen, they brought her back and she's, she's just. You know, I have so many things Okay, so she's just so upfront and so forward about things that I'm like. She didn't have to say it like that and I haven't been compared to her, but there's some things that she says that I'm like. Why have I just said that same thing?
Speaker 2:But like, but, like, nicer though I want to put a pin in that, because we're going to get back to you and how I can pray to you, to a housewife way back when we first started this. But we'll, we'll, we'll circle back to that. But, Mary, my issue with her is right. She's a friend of I don't know if it's because she's a fan of favorite and the feedback they keep getting from their Bravo make keep getting from you know his viewers, their viewers. I should say Again, I don't know why she's on there, but she does provide some of the most hilarious comedic relief, Absolutely the whole, like I'm not participating, and taking me to McDonald's instead.
Speaker 1:This bitch. Like oh fuck, like they're paying you to be on camera and you're like no, not going, but I didn't want to and I, and that's where I'm like, okay, I get it Like you're not going to force me to do something. I will all participate to as much as I want, but also, if I don't want to, I'm not going to. Don't force me to do something.
Speaker 2:She's like I'm just here to fulfill my contract.
Speaker 1:Pretty much, pretty much her friend of the show contract and you know one thing that I do kind of respect about that and what she said she's like why am I going to do that when they went to that little park to try and get Team building.
Speaker 1:She's like why am I gonna do that if I don't wanna build with this team? I don't like, I don't like. There's only like one person here that I like. Why would I do that with all of y'all if I really don't care for y'all? Like that. I was like noted, okay, bitch, like I get it Understood. But also, then don't fucking be on the show then.
Speaker 2:Exactly, don't be on the show it almost reminds me of. I saw a clip recently, and I don't know what event it was, for Some NBA or NFL thing went on. Katy Perry was on there and she was up on her little podium with all the microphones and they would ask her a question. Her response was I'm only here so I don't get fined. And then ask another question and Katy says I'm only here so I don't get fined. A third question I'm only here so I don't get fined. And then she walked off. Wow, it was like damn.
Speaker 1:She's fulfilling the obligation and if it's not written and you need to answer questions accordingly. I mean, I guess so.
Speaker 2:Exactly Just show up.
Speaker 1:I mean, she found that loophole and she went with it.
Speaker 2:But again this whole Mary cross between. I'm just like girl. Why? I mean the inside of her house. You saw that.
Speaker 1:I can see if you, dr Seuss, I mean even when she was on the show and they would. I mean she's there walking around talking to herself and she's there like just like. I have no words to describe. What I thought was hilarious was a couple seasons ago, when she was on where she was like I need to get rid of these things and like went and gave Louboutin shoes that were hers but she maybe wore them like once or twice and was like, oh, I think these were. They reminded me of you and I thought of you when I got that Whatever, and just like getting rid of stuff because she just had piles of things to that her husband had gotten her or whatever, but I was gonna call him something else.
Speaker 2:But I'm not going to her. Yeah, that's not. No, my favorite moment of hers back when she was on the show cause she's a pastor preacher, reverend, I don't know one of those right. So there were a lot to a brunch or a lunch or something, and they were heavy in gossip, right. And then the food came, and then the food got set down on the table and she was like, all right, continue girls. And then the girls were like, oh, don't you want to bless at first and she goes it's blessed, continue.
Speaker 1:I do remember that. It was like some, like French restaurant or something. Yes, yes Is that when they were supposed to wear a suit, suit, or didn't someone she tried getting someone to dress in a suit, suit or something.
Speaker 2:That I don't recall, but we both know which house, so I refuse as to play dress up.
Speaker 1:Which one?
Speaker 2:Meredith.
Speaker 1:Meredith, no, lisa Barlow. Lisa Barlow, that was with her. Lisa will not.
Speaker 2:It's twice now. I don't blame her, cause she needs stop all the glam she can get.
Speaker 1:Listen if she, if that's her thing and she wants to glam things up to go to the grocery store, good for her, good for her, that's what she wants to do. It was a very a whiny moment for her. But losing a $60,000 ring that allegedly may have been found by another housewife Allegedly, I said is something totally different. And just the way that the reaction was so harshly that she kept on whining about it. She even told Trixie Facky-Mattell that she lost her. I would have been like bitch, we gotta shut up. But like it was a $60,000 ring, that had a lot of meaning to it.
Speaker 2:Meaning.
Speaker 1:Yeah so.
Speaker 2:What was the meaning behind the ring?
Speaker 1:I don't remember Something about her husband got her that because I think her child was very sick or something. There was something along those lines where it referenced family and there was. It meant like it was like a our child made it through or something. So here's a ring to celebrate that or something, if I recall correctly.
Speaker 2:So it had sentimental value.
Speaker 1:Yeah, extreme, which she did mention, but but then once it became a thing, she really only made it about the sentiment of the thing, but she only mentioned that little part like One little.
Speaker 2:We also have to keep in mind production. Yeah, absolutely yeah, so they they're sneaky. She may have talked about the sentiment of Ali many a time. Yeah, all they're gonna do is show us how many times she mentioned $60,000.
Speaker 1:Right, which I love. Very true, yeah, I love the editing.
Speaker 2:I mean well, salt Lake City's production crew is top, top tier. I'll tell you who needs to have that crew is Beverly Hills. I mean right now.
Speaker 1:Nothing else is, you know, measuring up to the drama that Salt Lake City is giving us because of listen, salt Lake Brought in what my favorite actually with Salt Lake one my favorite scenes, or what I really like seeing, is when shit starts going down and then all of a sudden you see the camera move like they're picking it up to run, and then you see like production crew running in the background.
Speaker 2:It reminds me of Maury. When a guy runs out at the funding out, he's the father and he runs away.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cameras running after yes, yes you know, you don't see Potomac doing that. You don't see Beverly Hills doing that. You don't see I have any. I lost New York, so I don't know about that. But like you don't see any of, them doing that I think the only other one that might be doing something similar is Miami, but I haven't kept up with it, so I don't know what's going on, me neither actually side note is Larissa still on Miami. I just said, I don't like you.
Speaker 1:Okay, because she's traitors my era of Miami is with the incomparable Lisa Black. Like, okay, she was my favorite and Rest in peace, mama Lena. Like she was my favorite. Like that was when I, when it first came out and then when it started back up, it seemed interesting and some of the girls Were back on and I didn't realize it was the same girl because of the plastic surgery they got her whatever. And I was like, oh, that's Sam, that's weird. And then, and then I'm like, oh, I guess that is Adriana or whatever was the good thing, right. But you know, it is there their TV. You know what I mean? They're on for a reason and that's, that's reality TV you know it, I did.
Speaker 2:I didn't watch it. That's not true. When Miami first aired, I watched the first few episodes and I wasn't about it. The production crew was, it just wasn't up to par. I didn't like the way it looked, the way it made me feel, yeah, it wasn't cool. So I kind of let it go. When it did come back on, I was really into it and I was kind of following for the most part. But like back to Salt Lake City, once Salt Lake City came out with this season, with this season yeah, well, jen Shaw season and then this season, I'm like nothing else. If there was something to watch, it was gonna be that one. Yeah, and our time is limited, you know, and so I'm gonna give time to a housewife.
Speaker 1:It's gonna be solid if they really brought it. They really did bring it this season and you know I Hate to admit it, but you know Monica the new girl did, did bring stuff. But I mean a lot of the things that just came up and the waves portrayed and then the reunion and Just the way things were done. I I'm not a fan and I know a lot of people are a fan of her. Like she brought a little bit of Comminality. Like she's like I have a tiny home and it's 3,000 square feet and it's like, okay, that's so tiny by comparison to to the counterparts that she's with. Yes, but like you know, she she did bring a little bit of I Don't even want to say normalcy.
Speaker 1:But like okay like there were there, a lot of people could like, oh, I get her and understand, but when things came to light I think that it just made me not really a fan. And I think that these girls were like we need to make our season, like we need to be able to come back, and so at the slightest drop they were like I'm gonna turn it up for the camera. And they sure fucking did. And I Was glued to the TV watching it because they all did, they all brought it, you know, from. You know I don't like I Hate Whitney.
Speaker 2:You know you're not. You're not the only one a lot of people don't like. I don't have an issue with her, but a lot of people don't like her.
Speaker 1:I feel like the drama she was trying to create or whatever, just to kind of be relevant, was just like Girl, you're reaching, you're trying too hard and that's like, that's just like shady and bitchy. Or admit that you're being like shady and bitchy. And or when she did admit that's just being shady, comment yeah, that's being a fucking bitch. Being shady and being a bitch, they're synonymous with each other. Like this that's the same thing. Like, just because you're calling it shady doesn't mean like oh, you know, that's not, that's not the same.
Speaker 2:You know you're right about that. I I don't like when housewives try to come up with stuff to remain relevant. This reminds me of I don't know if you're caught up or not on Beverly Hills. So a lot of the girls are coming after crystal, not even a rude leader just saying, hey, like you need to speak up, I can you speak your mind. You need to speak up, you know, speak your opinions. Even her husband, you know. Yeah, rob, rob me coffee.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes is like you have a lot of opinions you need. You need to speak your mind. You can't just be behind the scenes. No, you're on it. I mean, they don't break the fourth wall. Only Denise Richards does, but oh, that was wild off her fucking rocker.
Speaker 1:Anyways, thank you, you're welcome. I love that so much I said to myself all the time now, like when I sneeze.
Speaker 2:I'll be like bless you.
Speaker 1:Thank you, you're welcome.
Speaker 2:Oh my goodness, but anyhow. So I Think crystal has got the hint and like speak up or you're gonna be gone. And her latest thing now is she's like all the girls are losing because you know she had an eating disorder before.
Speaker 1:do you remember that, mm-hmm?
Speaker 2:So now her thing is all the girls are losing weight and it's making her feel like she's overweight again. I Interpreted that as you were fine with them when you were this thinner one, but now that you're not the thinner one, now you have a problem and I found out so superficial, a little rude, and I'm like that is not the storyline you should have come up with to make yourself relevant as. I'm no longer the thinnest one on the show.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Kyle is but you, she looks good. She looks good. Um, you know I I love her journey, that she's going on. Um, I don't like the. Oh, did you okay? So I heard that Um, after the taping of the reunion, which I think was just last weekend, okay, over the last Friday, a week ago, or whatever, um, I heard um on anyways that the Her bestie, that she was getting tattooed with what's her name, the country singer Morgan.
Speaker 1:They're no longer following each other on social media, so something came up at the reunion Shortly after. Because they are no longer following each other, every I think photo with Kyle got removed or archived from Morgan's social and Only on. Kiles were some of the recent ones, but anything older archived as well, I think and I I made this comment a long time ago. I think that there's two possibilities, but I think she either did it to have a storyline.
Speaker 1:Okay or or there was something going on, but Kyle's never gonna leave. Mauricio, paul and Morgan got tired of waiting.
Speaker 2:I agree with half that statement. I do think that Kyle and Mauricio are splitting as much as it hurts me to say that that they were going to be the rocks of the entire Housewives franchises. But I do agree with the second half, that Morgan's like what the fuck are we doing? Like why are you streaming? Are you just using me for your storyline or do you actually care about me? I can definitely, I can definitely see that.
Speaker 1:I think well, and this was a comment, that was that that I had heard. So it is believed that the the family aspect for Kyle is is very important to her and the girls as they're getting older. They're still in the house, it's still they're separated.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But they're still, you know, doing family things together and co-parenting well, and I think that they may have just needed this tiny little break. And Kyle's like listen, mauricio, get your shit together, I could, I'm a hot commodity and I could get it for men or women. Obviously but like it's been super awkward seeing her little school girl behavior when she's on camera talking to her new past friend yeah.
Speaker 1:And on that I did hear another rumor that was allegedly happened with a housewife situation from Beverly Hills where there was a threesome with a realtor and or a gentleman I don't know what his occupation was, but a guy and two of the Beverly Hills housewives. And I feel, the way Dorit got jealous of Morgan and Kyle's friendship, that there may have been something going on. I feel I could be totally wrong. But but going on that, that that she got that jealous over the friendship, did you see that?
Speaker 2:I did see about it. I did see or hear about that rumor as well and obviously my first thoughts were Kyle and Dorit. I don't want to have to do those reality on this later, but I do think it was like them two and a gentleman, but then a prominent realtor in the area, like contact and was like don't come around my wife, my wife, ever again. And we both are what Mauricio does. You know what I mean, but go ahead.
Speaker 1:Okay. So what I believe that was because I think we're on the right page is I think that it was like if my husband comes home, just say you're a realtor, because the house was going to be for sale and that timeline fits with Dorit selling the home, and I think that PK was like who the fuck is this? Don't contact my wife. I mean, those are all just like assumptions from what is being said in the rumor mill.
Speaker 2:Now I agree with you on that. But the jealousy behind Dorit, I kind of feel for her. In this one, you know she had her bestie who then you would make okay, she had her bestie who was a married couple, right, but then all of a sudden she gets this new bestie that they're obviously acting like more than besties. And Dorit's like. You know, I lost my best friend, you pulled away from me, and they both feel it, which is annoying, because when you're watching this show they're both having their confessionals and they're both talking about how they've pulled away from each other. It's like why don't you guys just talk to each other?
Speaker 1:You can fix it.
Speaker 2:But I kind of feel for Dorit. I've been in that situation where I had a very, very good friend of mine and it was like us two against the world. And then he got into a relationship with his girlfriend and I'm like, all right, well, I have to support him because he's my best friend. But at the same time now I've lost my best friend because all his priorities are elsewhere. And then I feel guilty when he's like, well, let me, you know, let's hang out Saturday. I need to give you some time. I was like well, I'm not a charity case, like I appreciate it, but now I feel that these three hours we're going to hang out, like I have to make the most of it, because one.
Speaker 2:I don't get any, but I also feel like you shouldn't have to carve out time. So here's the thing Tell me.
Speaker 1:You know, I always try and tell people when you start a new relationship, you're going to give them all the time and attention. However, don't forget the people that have been there. However, if I'm one of those people where months could go by, but when we connect, it'll be like it was just yesterday and because I get it and I understand that, you know what I mean and nothing's wrong with that. Nothing's wrong with that. I think it's kind of a little. I don't want to use the word immature, but it is slightly childish to be like. What about me? And that's one of my favorite things.
Speaker 2:But you know.
Speaker 1:But in that aspect of well they're in a new relationship, I'm going to be happy for them, I'm going to applaud that, I'm going to share them on, but also I'm going to be like when things aren't so good, don't expect me to drop everything that now I have going on, that I created and started doing since you had to now find, you know, other hobbies or other friends or whatever it may be to fill in the gap of our bestie relationship or whatever, because now you have someone else. So either be inclusive, find that time and make that time for your friends who have always been there, even if it's just once every other week for a little bit, or if it's a phone call or a FaceTime. Or you know a inclusive let's go on a. We're going to go, me and my other half are going to go bowling. Let's all do that.
Speaker 1:Or you know, I want you to get to know this person also. Or just be inclusive and don't just shut everyone out, because when not when if something goes awry, who's going to be there? Some of them that are not going to care that that you dipped out, the ones that do care that you dipped out. You won't see them and you know the ones that are going to become indifferent over it. You know, and, and you just have to be mindful of giving individual time to those people.
Speaker 2:I I dated a guy before I moved here to San Antonio, this is a few years ago. Great guy, he was so nice. But I remember when I started dating him I was like hey, like listen, you know, this is my time. And he was so understanding. I even told him.
Speaker 2:I was like I'm going to have my U-time, I'm going to have my us time with my friends and your friends, my me time as well. I was like, but ultimately, I have to get my friends. And I told him I said, you know, they were here before you and they're going to be here during us and, as I can God for anything happened between us, they're going to be here after you. And so he was super understanding and it, but even, but only on my side, because when I would hang out with him, it was either me and him or me, him and his best friend. And one day I was like hey, like going out with your best friend, like it was you two. You two were, like you know, tied up the hit before you met me, like go give her time.
Speaker 1:Like going out with her because she's going to appreciate it.
Speaker 2:Like I promise you and he didn't, Ultimately we did last a while we worked out pretty well and then until we didn't but you know he was understanding of that. I know hope that everybody else can be, but like right now, back to Dr Rit and her Connecticut accents she's hurt right now. I think she's hurt and I just wish you would just talk to Kyle about it.
Speaker 1:And I saw either I think it was one of Kyle's confessionals that it was something super minor and silly, but she's hurt that Jorit didn't stand up or say something. When it was, I think, the reunion before this season, Something came to light and she vented that that's why it's kind of put a slight wedge and caused a lot of the distance.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And I find all of the women in Beverly Hills are having that kind of feeling of like well, stand up for me, and why isn't? And they're all crying that or saying that and it's like none of you all have a voice, or one of you all scared of the other, or whatever it means yes. Like the only one that is like OK with saying things with that or bringing shut up, is Garcelle, and I love.
Speaker 2:Garcelle and Erica. Garcelle and Erica.
Speaker 1:You know, listen, I wasn't a fan. I like, I loved Erica, I hated Erica. I couldn't stand Erica. And then last season she was a hot mess and then the pretty mess.
Speaker 1:Oh, she was a very you're right, she was a pretty but a hot pretty mess. And then like, and then like this season she is kind of like transformed and was like I am on a new path, I'm on you know, rediscovery, or I went through a lot and she admitted it and everything, and then she's been, she's been like pretty much on her best behavior until this past episode that I saw at was it Taco Tuesday?
Speaker 2:It was Taco Tuesday at Crystal's house and old Erica came through. It came through, but in the best non.
Speaker 1:Ok, it was trashy, but it was, it was, it was dagger.
Speaker 2:It was like full of daggers Listen, but it was. It was it was contained. Does that make sense? Like she saw her target, didn't take anybody else in the collateral. There was no collateral damage. She went low, she went mean, she said the most vile things, but to the one person needed to hear it Go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 1:I'm getting worked up, you are, and so, before you continue, seeing that I I you had actually compared me to Erica and I was pissed. And how dare you? I would never that scene. I was like, oh my God, I am Erica because, listen, you want to train, come for me. I'm going to take the high ground and I'm going to be fine. But if you keep on poking and digging and trying, ok, you want to play that game I hit below the belt. You want to come for me and you want to try? I'm going to stay on the high ground for as long as I can, but it's like OK, you want to play this game, I will play it back, but you're not going to like it because I'm going to go in and I'm going to go hard and I'm going to come for you If you're going to drag me down, I will go lower.
Speaker 1:Listen and then, and then I do have a ladder that I could climb back up on and be like bite and like she did and and you know and do it, and and I I don't think it was that bad. I think, like, listen, if you want to try in air dirty laundry and and bring up something that has nothing to do, then OK, you want to play that game.
Speaker 2:I have information to that I mean in regards to that, that episode at Taco Tuesday, I was. I was just blown away by how first for her confessional she was like I don't want this fight. I do not want this fight. I really did not want this fight, but OK. And then when she was like that was mean, well, what did you expect her to come at me Like do you not know who I am? And I'm like, that's true. Like she, like I said it was she's never presented herself a different way Never.
Speaker 2:It was the most damage and she could have been old Erica and fucking call everybody else out lost her shit, lost her shit, yelled and screamed and stormed off, but no, she kept it so contained, but destroyed. Denise, what was that comment? Who's more profitable, you or Sammy?
Speaker 1:I was like my eyes and my mouth like the. If I was in the room, the camera would have immediately zoomed to my face because I would have been like the yelling my eyes would have done, or like.
Speaker 2:OK, or even earlier in the conversation, because, like when Garcelle was having an issue and Garcelle was like you know, to derate, you know I can't explain because you and your privilege won't understand and like the whole room was like gasped. And then she's like Doris, what does that mean? And only one person, erica love it. It's because you're a white and words mean different to you. Yes, exactly. I was like see, that's you, aj. Like you, it's you. I told you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I saw it this past.
Speaker 2:So that episode I did, you're right. You know what?
Speaker 1:And listen, I could agree to a certain extent and you know, and, but this where she's at now, where she's trying to take the high ground because, again, I'm on this path of enlightenment and betterment and just being a better person and trying to exude positive things. However, if you think that you could play with me a certain way and think I'm not going to play back or say something back, no, that's, I've never who in their right mind. Everyone knows me, everyone knows who I am and I could be a catty fucking bitch and, but I'm the most lovable, protected person you'll ever have on your side and if you want to joke around with me, I'll joke back and we could banter with each other and have that, which is what you and I do. However, if I feel I'm getting attacked and ganged up on, no, there's no, like everything goes out the window and I'm coming out and I will cut you with my tongue Right, and that is a defense mechanism that I've created since being picked on for so young, like so long in my life, at school, at home, everywhere I was around I would get made fun of or whatever it was.
Speaker 1:So I learned on at an early age what you have. Oh, call me, call me gay sissy, whatever. Well, I'm going to find something that I know is going to bother the fuck out of you and I'm going to point it out and I'm going to make sure everyone hears that you have a receding hairline, you have your. Whatever it may be that I see on that individual that I know bothers you and I've never said anything about.
Speaker 2:I want to show that he looked right at me. I saw a TikTok today of a guy singing Mariah Carey in my all and it was like you know, I don't want to sing, but like I'd give my life to have one more night with you and it was like my receding hairline. Oh, that was.
Speaker 1:I but listen right.
Speaker 1:That, all that all goes away. And with Erica, that made me be like, ok, bitch, I see you, I love that you. She handled herself well. And then she was just like I'm kind of down here. You, we try to have a conversation. You out of nowhere brought up some old shit that was already you know, lawyer it up and proven whatever, and you know it's like what are you trying to bring up? What are you trying to come from me? Ok, well, let me bring up something that you know what I mean. It was, it was great, it was fantastic TV it was. It wasn't like Salt Lake TV.
Speaker 1:But, it was. It was Beverly Hills, like you know, no it was great.
Speaker 2:I do want to circle back to the whole. Like you know, kyle Richards, you know she did mention in her confessional that she it was when she was having her feud with her older sister, kathy Kathy and the reason to send up for her based on what they read to the high and close doors yes, I experienced that very recently, actually in the last less than six months, I know I don't know if we talked about it.
Speaker 2:Actually I didn't want to talk about it a lot here. I didn't want to talk about it a lot here, but ultimately I'll bring a little bit here up now. You know, when I was having a lot of, you know, romantic feelings for an individual and I would talk to my closer friends about it, and behind closed doors, they would tell me, like all this, very all this information, that these are my closest confidants, right? So, because I love them and trust them, I was going to, I took their advice and I would act on their advice. And then, when I would act on their advice with this individual I was interested in and it didn't, you know, turn out negatively in a public setting, they'd be like, well, now, you shouldn't have done that, you shouldn't have done that, it did piss me off.
Speaker 1:Who's side are you on?
Speaker 2:You know, that's where my head would go, and I did call him out. You know, first I tried to let it go and then, you know, a few weeks from by, and I called him out, put them in a group chat and I said I don't appreciate this. It's like whenever somebody asked me for advice, I'm gonna give them advice. It's in their best interest, not just what's gonna make them happy or smile. And I was like and I love you guys and I trust you guys, so when you told me this behind closed doors, I acted on it, and then when it turned out to go south publicly, you're like you should have never have done that. And so I can kind of I can kind of, you know identify with Kyle a little bit, but I just think her and Doreen need to have a conversation.
Speaker 1:Back on that little scene. Tell me, I hate Doreen, but I love that she deflected. I was like, hey, did you ever fix your thing? Did you have a conversation with Erica?
Speaker 2:That one.
Speaker 1:And then like, just like completely fucking deflect and then I was like oh, I miss my husband. I haven't seen him in a week and he's back. Ta-ta, we'll see you guys. And they're like you're leaving. She's like, yes, I'm just, you know, I'm tired and you peak his back and we need to see the children and I was just like this fucking bitch pulled the fucking pin from the grenade through it and was like bye and fucking loved. I loved. I hate it, but I loved that.
Speaker 2:That level of deflection and how she pulled it off flawlessly needs to be studied. I was just like wow.
Speaker 1:Deflecting at like the proper level it should have been would have been subtle and not so obvious. This was just like everyone look over there and then she like ran off and you just always a little cloud of dust.
Speaker 2:I'm racist. Well, what about this? And then, like my husband misses me, I have to go.
Speaker 1:I have to go and see PK with the children and I'm like oh my goodness, I yeah, that was prime TV. Yes, yes.
Speaker 2:Get me very, very entertained.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know what is funny as well. So, speaking on the whole accent thing, back to Salt Lake, did I send you the little compilation of Meredith Marx? And all her little accents that she's just like and the vid and the nastiness.
Speaker 2:Nastyness.
Speaker 1:And she's like I forgot which one it was, but they were at the dinner that she was like you can leave.
Speaker 2:Everyone was making fun of her over that.
Speaker 1:And but she, she fucking took it and did it and she's like I, oh, and she's, she's, I like her, I like Meredith, she's my favorite.
Speaker 2:Right now I mean my social media, because I did search for it for like a whole night. So I keep getting bombarded. My algorithm has changed. All I keep seeing is the Chicago cuts of receipts. Receipts, proofs, screenshots, timelines Timelines.
Speaker 1:Yes, mixed in with the song of.
Speaker 2:She had it coming.
Speaker 1:Yes, so good it was, I think, dancing with the stars.
Speaker 2:They did it too. No, it was the guys.
Speaker 1:The guys, and then it was the girls, and then it was like like they all fucking did it Dun dun, dun. It was so good, it was so good. I love Chicago.
Speaker 2:I did too.
Speaker 1:I love, that's all.
Speaker 2:I could want in my favorites. Yeah, not that I watch a lot of Bravo shows or spin-offs, but Scandival, the girl and Scandival.
Speaker 1:OK, I can't think of her name. Someone will tell us she was on Dancing with the Stars. Potentially, I don't know, but now she's.
Speaker 2:Roxie Hart in Chicago. Yes, oh is she, roxie.
Speaker 1:Yes, I think it is Roxie.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes, yeah, yeah, I love how Chicago will cast a lot of be-list celebrities.
Speaker 1:She inks one soon.
Speaker 2:I know it was the.
Speaker 1:Mama Morton.
Speaker 2:Mama Morton.
Speaker 1:Yes, so good.
Speaker 2:No, absolutely.
Speaker 1:I haven't seen it on stage Me neither, but the movie really did everything for me and it was just done so well and so many great people on it. One of my favorites was reporter Christine Bransky Brinkley.
Speaker 2:No, bransky Bransky, I love her.
Speaker 1:She's fabulous. I've loved her for a very, very long time. She's actually one of the leads in this HBO period piece that I love watching.
Speaker 2:The.
Speaker 1:Gilded Age or the Gilded Era? The Gilded Age, have you seen or heard?
Speaker 2:of it. I must not love her that much. I've never heard of it, but I'm a big fan.
Speaker 1:OK, so down to Naby.
Speaker 2:OK, so you did see a period piece earlier. There are very, very few shows that I'm a fan of that are period pieces.
Speaker 1:I'm not a fan of period piece movies. I can't have.
Speaker 2:Peaky Blinders, but that was a huge success. I don't do very many period pieces I just that's not my thing.
Speaker 1:I understand that and there are a lot of people like that. But that gets me going. I loved. I've down to Naby. I've seen several times. I've seen the movies several times. The Gilded Age is basically New York City when it was like this past season they were constructing the Brooklyn Bridge, like it was like that era where it was like the Vanderbilt and the like that era of time where it was like the boom of, like steel and I forgot the word of whatever it's called. But it was that era where these people who didn't come from money all of a sudden became the wealthiest in the area and all of the old money that had come in and were generational wealth there. So it was like Old New York and New New York and it's just like the battle between them. So I could talk all about that kind of stuff, but it was that. That's another good show. I you should give it a try.
Speaker 2:I'll give it the old college try.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, just at least I mean it's on, it's on the second season, that's done. But I, I love it. That was good.
Speaker 2:Well, the next show I am going to give a try, I guess, is Real Housewives, potomac.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to be so close coming soon, exactly.
Speaker 2:As we announced last week. Yeah, super excited about that. Have I told you about my new living situation? No, I'm going to be a bit of a nomad once I move out there. What do you mean? So my new role that I was very fortunate enough to get, which is bringing me to the Arlington DC area, involves a lot of travel.
Speaker 2:And just a couple of days ago, I was already communicating with my very soon to be peers and co-workers and they're like book all these trips. I need to book the Mesa app. So from the moment I get there, from only a few days after I arrive there, all the way through the end of May, I'm going to be on trips. Oh wow, Pretty much back to back, with only being in the DC area for about 10 to 14 days sporadically.
Speaker 2:So I thought you know what, let me just live out of a suitcase, ok, and versus trying to find a place without a suitcase and then stay vacant and you pay rent for months Exactly, and the rent order is not cheap.
Speaker 1:You know it is, so why would I?
Speaker 2:pay two and a half to three months of rent and I can't even unbox a single box. You know what I mean, unpack a single box. So I've kind of I talked to my moving agents for moving me and they will hold my belongings and a storage unit up there until I'm ready to deliver and ready to have them delivered. And so I'm thinking, you know what? I'll just stay hotels, air B&Bs for the few sporadic days I'm going to be there, live out of a suitcase and be a little bit of a nomad. And realistically, I was going to be living out of a suitcase anyway because I'm traveling so freaking much.
Speaker 2:So those are my new plans. Which took a bit. I mean, I've had so many people like yourself come through reaching out to people in the area.
Speaker 2:Letting me know different areas and provinces and boroughs to live in. I've had some other people come through like live here, live there. I even met somebody at a work conference just two days ago who said my wife just purchased a condo. It is a little bit further of a commute to where you're going to be working, but she's going to rent it to me, fully furnished too. And so I reached out to him. I was like hey, I may not be able to do a three, four, six month lease, but it's a summer, I can stay for the few days of being in town. He's like absolutely so I have things lined up where I may not even have to get a hotel and air B&B for those few days.
Speaker 1:And it's right on the shore too.
Speaker 2:Nice, how exciting I am. There's a lot unfolding very, very, very neatly, very nicely in these next few weeks. But which brings us. We have a lot for you all. Yes, and the next few weeks, AJ, do you want to give us? Some information on that OK.
Speaker 1:So we're going to be a little busy for this month of February. While you're still here, I have we're in the talks of having several interviews lined up with some very special individuals that we're just going to hear their stories and their topics and their various different things that they have going on to enlighten us, and you guys are listeners to kind of just be more knowledgeable about things. So I do have some things planned because I kind of figured, until you settled in and we got used to your new schedule, that we need to kind of get ahead of the game, so that way, if we don't, we aren't able to record remotely we'll still be able to have something go out weekly. So we're going to work tirelessly over the next few weeks.
Speaker 1:So that way things are still getting pushed out. So I don't want to say any names.
Speaker 2:Yeah, of course, but I do already have. We don't want to jinx anything Exactly.
Speaker 1:And I already have like four secured individuals and I'm still working on a few more. So really really good things coming up. You know it's going to be exciting, so on that note I want to congratulate you again, thank you. We want to talk more housewife stuff and if you guys have anything to say, if we left anything out, please send us a message, dm us. You know where to find us, at dose of delusion. On Instagram, you could also follow me at AJTheSilverFox and you can follow me at 100shadesofcray on Instagram.
Speaker 1:On that note, thanks for listening. Talk to you soon. Bye guys. 量산 Rusia, Seoul.
