Dose of Delusion
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Dose of Delusion
Pink Boxes and Glass Closets
Season 3 kicks off with Jay plotting a move, flirting with hotel-life, and admitting Taco Bell is now just a sometimes treat.
We spiral into the Crumbl cookie circus, pink boxes, TikTok outing drama, and why internalized homophobia is the real stale cookie.
“Homiesexual” gets decoded, “demisexual” gets respect, and yes, Jay uses the term demi-glaze because he’s hungry and…correct.
An advice column tackles Declan the distressed bottom who can’t finish, verdict: less pressure, more patience, and a top who can multitask.
Plus travel chaos (Salt Lake, Park City hair blowouts, hard pass on the St. Louis arch), AJ’s step-challenge slut era, and enough gossip to frost a dozen.
hello, hello, hello and welcome back to dose of delusion is me, your host, jay, and I am so happy to be in the presence of the glamorous, the beautiful, the well ring light lit. Aj, the silver, aj, the Silver Fox, aj, how are you Tell us?
Speaker 2:everything I am good. Long time no see. I know To the listeners long time. No, hear my voice right. But here we are with season three. Welcome back.
Speaker 1:I know I can't believe it's been so long, but honestly, honestly it's. It's been great. How have you been? What have you been up to? What's all the hot gossip?
Speaker 2:I mean so not, not too much. I mean I um, I moved, I started with a new company. I um working different places. So not too much. You know, same old, same old.
Speaker 1:You know I cannot, I cannot, I know, know, I know that you and I talked about this, like we like texting and whatnot before, but I I'm right now on the verge like no, not on the verge.
Speaker 1:I've already made my decision, decision that I am going to move apartment buildings right, good, oh, buildings or units, building completely oh, wow, yeah, okay, but even that, even now, I just can't like wrap my head around or like physically moving, even though I'm hiring movers. I'm just like I just can't wrap my head around physically moving, even though I'm hiring movers. I'm just like I just can't do it all over again and I am so envious of the fact that you're like I don't want to be here, I'm going to move, and you do this all the time. I know it's like at least once a year.
Speaker 2:I just get an itch and I'm just like I'm over it.
Speaker 2:And I just move. But I've know it's um. You know, I've been in this industry for 15 years of property management, so you know I think that it has been very easy for me to just go to another property. Um, but yes, always hire movers, never do it yourself, because I'm too old to be doing that. I'm like 40 ish. You know what I mean. I'm not gonna be doing that anymore. I pay people to do it and then I just kind of like settle in. But you know, I just I just can't. I just hurt my back, like I'm gonna be achy for months after, like I just I don't have the bandwidth to do that no, I, I totally get it like when I actually.
Speaker 1:So I moved, uh, when I was still in texas and I moved from el paso to san antonio. I took the option because, like you know, my employer will like pay for the entire move, whether I do it myself or I'm gonna do it. And I was like you know what? I want to pocket the extra money, so I'm gonna do it myself yes, I pocketed terrible choice like a few, actually a few thousand extra one in my pocket and it was nice.
Speaker 1:but it was a lot of work and the second time they moved me from texas up here to dc I was like I don't want to lift a damn finger and I was like I'm not allowed to government move me Um 100% of of of the move and it was. It was fantastic. Yeah, this move I'll be doing. I'm going to be higher local movers because I don't want to do anything.
Speaker 2:So when is your lease up and when will you be moving?
Speaker 1:And do you?
Speaker 2:already know what building you're going to be in wow, so many questions calm down. Oh my god, I cannot think of her name come down.
Speaker 1:Barbara walters. Um, okay, no, so my lease is technically not up until march, but I am able to kind of get out of it whenever I want.
Speaker 1:Thanks, oh yes to my employer, right, so that helps a lot. So that's kind of irrelevant, I don't know. But I do have a plan this week and me and one of my friends I am going to over the next few weeks I got time to do this on my own time right Over the next few weeks I am going to visit many different buildings and see exactly, you know, is it near the metro station? Is it near, you know, my preferred gym? You know all those little things that I didn't quite get to do when I moved into this building blindly because I was moving from a different state.
Speaker 2:But also at that point you didn't have your preferred gym. You didn't need to know what you were going to do with the train or whatever. But what about your Taco Bell? What about your….
Speaker 1:Well, you'll be happy to is important things don't eat so much taco bell anymore good I know I had to lay off a bit for other medical concerns, but oh my we're happy and we're healthy now, so taco bell is just the occasional treat.
Speaker 2:It's no longer my four times a week until I black out situation you know, I feel that it always should have been like an every now and then type of thing, but I wasn't gonna tell you what to do with that oh, my goodness, you know what else I'm considering doing as far as since we're talking about moving is I am I mean not to put all my business out there and I do like I I pay pretty pretty penny for rent.
Speaker 1:it's really expensive in this area, almost the equivalent of getting hotel rooms. And as someone who travels a lot for work, I spend a lot of time in hotels and I'm like you know I could probably do this more long-term Not that I want to do it forever, but what I am considering doing is putting all my stuff into storage and living in hotels for like maybe two weeks out of time in various parts of town to see if I actually really truly enjoy living there in that area, and I'm like what's stopping me? I go on, I travel for work and I'm gone for six, seven weeks at a time, exactly, living out of two or three suitcases, like it's completely okay. So that's something I might be doing here in a very, very near future. Um, I'm kind of excited for it, but anyways, if you're able to do that, why not so?
Speaker 1:but I digress, yeah yeah, I think I'm gonna do it. Um, anyways, what is what is up with you? I'm a little jealous of where you're living right now ups and downs.
Speaker 2:To be quite honest, um, I what's referencing listeners is I've always liked to live by the Pearl. I've lived by the Pearl for, or here in San Antonio, of course, for about eight, nine years, and I'm a little bit closer to downtown, so it's a little bit more like, um, grifters walking on the street type of a thing. But the ease of distance I have to just grab a cocktail at my preferred locations, I am able to just hop, not even a hop, skip and a jump. It's literally just a hop and I'm just a hop, just the hop, it's a hop away.
Speaker 2:So you know it's um, uh, you know when I first moved in because I've been here about two weeks now um, when I first moved in, I went like three or four times that week just like, oh, I'm off of work and it's been a rough day, I want to drink. So I did that, and I had no idea that their happy hours until nine were like $3. Oh my. So I was like, oh no, why did I learn this? But aside from that, like a post that I'm like no, no, no, like don't, your liver's going to hate you, don't do this. And so I've kind of been good and only strictly try and go on like a Friday or Saturday, sunday, I don't even come over here. I have different areas that I go to the river north side and which we'll talk about that another time. But I keep on waving this way because it's literally right outside the window and I'm looking at it. But yeah, I mean, it's all right, and don't you have like a bar right, like across from your building also?
Speaker 1:I do and I'm going to miss that when I decide, I'm going to miss that when I leave, but I actually don't frequent them that often. So there are two or three bars literally right across the street from my apartment Gay bars which I do love, but they. Two or three bars literally right across the street from my apartment gay bars, which I I I do love, but they're more on the clubbish side of things. Okay and uh, to me that's more of the occasional. I prefer more bars and also I'm gonna miss them because just a few blocks behind behind my building is where, like the older, older is in time, not like crowd, maybe crowd also.
Speaker 1:Oh, but the um, a more regular, the regular, standard, traditional gay bar, similar to where you live across the street from right now, and I've started frequenting, frequenting those bars more often. But I'm gonna have to say goodbye to those um and I could. Obviously, you know, depending where I live, it's just a five or ten minute uber away, right, but, um, it is really nice the fact that I can just walk four blocks and be at them and stumble back home at the end of the night if need be.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But at the same time I don't need to be going out all the time anyways.
Speaker 2:Right, that, yeah, yeah, that, first and foremost. So you know, it is very convenient and everyone's like, well, well, you're there all the time now and I'm like actually I'm not. First of all, it's only been two weeks and I mean I'm there on the weekends, but also so are they. So, yeah, they trying to do you know what I mean. Like it's like calm down, um, stop projecting like what they would be doing if they exactly, I do miss those bars.
Speaker 1:I can't wait to get back, to get back down. There's going to be a lobby for I'm back down there, I was about to say when are you planning?
Speaker 1:um, you know, now this is just a phone call between friends, but you know it's basically go every october for you know the event I, I, I have my ticket for for that whole music festival and everything, but I I don't. This is gonna be news to people when they hear this. I don't. I'm not sure I'm actually gonna go yet.
Speaker 1:Um, I'm just not sure if I'm feeling it this year and I kind of want to go West Coast and visit some friends on the West Coast instead and use that time a little differently, mainly because I got a couple. First of all, mainly because I spent so much money. The ticket itself is about $350. And then between hotel and then the amount of money that I spent on food and beverages we're talking it's in the thousands, not thousands, but it's in the thousands, not thousands, but it's well over a thousand, easy. And I got a couple big trips coming up this fall and winter overseas trips and whatnot, and I should I'd rather spend that money there and then go visit all my San Antonio friends on a non-music festival weekend.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:But I'm super excited about that. Uh, I was going to ask you, though, about, about, about, what can I say? The name of the bars that you go, that you live across? Maybe I, maybe I won't, maybe I won't okay, anyways um, but I'm gonna miss my bars here. But I will find new places to go and maybe places that are a little bit more politically friendly, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, when you're in DC.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I know that right now in some of the gay bars around this area they apparently I don't know the fine details about it, but apparently it's like a lot of the owners or the co-founders or whatnot like they may not exactly be very gay friendly, but they know where to get their money from you know not, the more prominent ones.
Speaker 1:Obviously, these are very popular. It's a very gay part of town, but some of the other little tinier ones around that I haven't really been to, which actually kind of brought me up into like thinking about what I was seeing on social media recently. Have you been following the crumble cookie story?
Speaker 2:You know, I did kind of like stumble across it when it did first come out, but I had no idea, like I didn't even know who he was until they outed him or whatever I know.
Speaker 1:Now I'm going to be honest idea like I didn't even know who he was until they outed him or whatever I know. Now I'm gonna be honest, I was following it a lot more than I probably should have, because I think he I think they're crumbling he's the co-founder of crumble cookie. It was him and his partner, business partner, um, but the main guy we're talking about is sawyer hemsley. Uh, he's generally just I mean, like, like, an objectively handsome guy.
Speaker 2:He's good looking. Not like I mean he's good looking. Yeah, like I mean he's good looking.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't know what. What would the word objectively be? Or universally, or just like standard-y, like you know, standard issue.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Standard issue Caucasian male Like.
Speaker 2:No, yes, and that makes sense Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so, but he's a handsome guy. And so what happened was what I did. What happened was what I did. I came across this TikToker. His name was Grant Gibbs and he was just like guys. I just found the crumble CEO and he's trying to identify himself as a heterosexual man. That guy is gay. That guy is so gay, and he went on like a three minute rant of just how gay this man is.
Speaker 2:And so, of course, I start know tiktok, searching crumble cookie ceo, and that man is gay so when you brought this up, I did kind of like like swipe through, like crazy style on his instagram to see how far back I could go, because he just finally admitted to himself what like this year, right, like a month ago, oh, we're gonna get there like two weeks.
Speaker 2:Okay, but go on so I mean he's very like like prim and proper, like pretty boy, but like I don't want to use the word effeminate, but like kind of I'll say.
Speaker 1:I'll say he has a little bit of feminine qualities. Yeah, like he.
Speaker 2:Like you could tell he probably likes doing like he moisturizes and like you know, like all that good I know it's like I wasn't sure where you're gonna go but you know what I mean, like so. So I think that you go on, go on. You have you, you like, followed it more than I did, so I.
Speaker 1:I started, I searched him and it was. It was more than just the, the what do they call it? Like that metro, or it was more than just like a look, it was more than that. I mean one. If we're going to be stereotypical, like the tone of his voice, his, his mannerisms, his dancing videos, the overt fitness, I mean he's literally your, your standard caucasian gay man. On every dating app that you've seen, every instagram that you've seen, and I was like, wow, this guy's cool. And and, for me, like I'm one of those people I really do respect what people say. Their sexuality is, regardless of what I think, regardless of if I've been with that person or not, if this, if I, if I have relations with a man, and then he still wants to say I'm straight, well, guess what? You're straight?
Speaker 2:you're straight until you say you're not no right like so, but he's from idaho idaho or utah some idaho the company is based out of utah but he's his like home town or home place is idaho, yeah, um, and his business partners, his cousin who I thought was I thought they were a couple when I saw like their photo. So like I did, like I did look up, crumble right, so I was looking into it and like one of their little pictures that's like the story of us. It's a look there. It's two guys, one's like the little twink and the other one's like the little the the cub, because he's not hairy. Like he's in a pink cadillac and they're like driving in the front seat with the top down. Like it's like gay. You know what I mean like britney spears and crossroads right, very, very so.
Speaker 2:I thought they were a couple, but no, they're cousins when I read the story about it.
Speaker 1:So well see, I didn't know they were cousins, to be honest I didn't know that right, okay so, but here's where it gets tricky.
Speaker 1:So this boy he's a pretty popular tiktoker goes out and it starts stirring the pot, like now. People are interested in this crumble cookie ceo and all his videos are going even more viral than they were. Um, not that they were super viral to begin with, but they started. I mean, it got great. The buzz was buzzing, right. Um well, the buzz buzzed so hard that apparently our little Sawyer Hemsley in the past was having, like DMing the, a reality tv show. He, like lance bass, hosted a show like the bachelor, but it was for gay men. And again, robert uh, sepulveda was his name, or sepulveda, depending on how you want to say it right uh, very handsome guy, very, very handsome guy.
Speaker 1:Well, anyways, they were dming some pretty hot, steamy stuff. Well, apparently robert decided well, now is the time to go to release those dms. Now robert claims right that he did it because he found out that sawyer hemsley is actually a very conservative republican. Oh, and that's why he chose to out him. So this guy, robert, released these dms, and then, between the dms being released and all the tiktok chatter, sawyer essentially felt bullied into coming, having to come out, right, yeah I mean I again utah, idaho, like it's very their upbringing like makes them kind of hold everything in and me, coming from a small town in south Texas, something similar.
Speaker 2:I couldn't be loud and out and about like when I was growing up. So I totally get. But I mean, did I ever say, oh, I'm straight, maybe like when I was in junior high, but you know what I mean? But by the time I was an adult and out of my parents' home I was very much out to myself and to friends and to I didn't try and live a different life except where I was like under my mom's roof.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean. And then, of course, out of respect, you have to do that. But that's just again small town mentality that is just forced upon us.
Speaker 1:No, I agree, I do take a little bit of like, mean, I don't know, I have mixed feelings about it, not that it's any of my business, but you know, here we are on a podcast, right, I have mixed feelings about it because one I want to be like hey, you be true. If you want to say you're straight, you're straight. If you're going to come out, come out, I'm happy you're out. But one of the things that I didn't like is, or that does bother me is, and also also the whole, like republican democrat left right liberal conservative.
Speaker 1:Even that has a spectrum of things where I'm like I can, like I can understand you know why. But now these are unsubstantiated claims. But apparently, uh, someone on reddit said that they asked the founders of Crumble hey, why don't you guys do Pride Cookies and the not Sawyer? But I guess his cousin whatever his name is had said oh, that goes against our core values. And it was just like come on on, you know, if you guys are the, the ceos and whatnot, and you have this big thing. It's like why are you be, like you're, you're, you're taking this thing that you, you I don't know how to explain it. I don't know explain, it's like I don't. Maybe you can help me find the words, but I don't want to say I don't know how to explain it. But it's like come on, why are you gonna put that out there?
Speaker 1:why are you gonna put that out there and say those things, such against the community, when the calls coming from inside the house right, you know.
Speaker 2:But also maybe he's even worse than um, mr hemsley, and like is is for sure, not even out to himself. You know what I mean. So if those, those values and those views were instilled in him, then you know what? If their parents maybe had money and they were the ones that gave him the money to start this company and um, turn it into franchise and make it what it is today? But like what if the family was, were to find out and they're like we're taking this away from you no longer? You know what I mean. We don't know what's what's in the back room. We don't know what's in the. You know what's going on well, I need to know.
Speaker 1:Hold on, I gotta ask you this question. I never asked you. Do you like crumble cookies?
Speaker 2:no, absolutely not. I'm more of a tiff's treat tiff's treats person myself.
Speaker 2:Um those. I think they're based out of Austin, so you know, love local. Texas made all that kind of stuff. But like crumble cookies are just so too much sugar. And the frosting Like I could like when I get them because they get them like they always bring them as gifts for work, like we'll cut them in like fours or sixes and I'll have like a sliver and I'm just like that's too much sugar, like I don't know how people eat the whole thing, like it's insane to me I know like I mean I don't dislike them, but I will say it's never a priority choice.
Speaker 1:If I am going to go somewhere, I get a cookie. I'm going to do insomnia or tiffs yeah um, but I get these caramel cookies and I think they're more of a what's like a novelty, because like the box and the color of the box and the cuteness and then how the cookies are always so overdone with the fig layers of icing and the colorful and blah, blah, blah and they're gay as fuck. But, um, I don't really think people actually enjoy eating them.
Speaker 2:I'm sure there's some people that are. So I mean, I'm sure people do enjoy that and prefer that. And now, you know, some people have a sweet tooth and stuff, you know I do purchase them for gifts a lot.
Speaker 1:They're super easy, kind of inexpensive, and they deliver so that it's really great for a little 30 hand delivered gift um to somebody's door. You know I was when I was like reading all the watching all these tiktoks and reading up on this whole Sawyer Hemsley thing, somebody was like the way crumble is spelled is so grinder-coated.
Speaker 2:That Now, that is one million percent. Like come on now.
Speaker 1:And then I was watching this video with Trisha Paytas and she was saying, how you know, when all this stuff, like she was on some of their podcasts with some of the people, and when Sawyer Hensley was like right now he's heavily in the news, but when a couple weeks ago she was going through, she's like, oh my God, I'm going to go follow this guy and she goes. I went to his Instagram and I went to his TikTok and I went to follow him and it said follow back, which means he already follows me. The other podcast host was like confirmed, like why would he be following Trisha Paytas already?
Speaker 2:Exactly. But, it got me thinking. Do you think he suffers from something?
Speaker 1:like internalized homophobia.
Speaker 2:Well, there's a word yeah Like, especially he mentioned that he's not bringing right and you know, and that that is something that you know. I feel like, didn't we talk about that about? Didn't you have something like that in one of our other podcasts?
Speaker 1:I don't recall okay, that's right.
Speaker 2:um, no, so okay, I think know very much. So I think there is something with that having to hide themselves and he's been in denial for so long. And you know there's and I just referenced back, you know, coming from a small town in Texas or South Texas, even with the machismo Mexicano upbringing, like that is very like there's married men with children and grandchildren that are sneaking out to a bar just to have a drink and sit next to maybe not even act on it, or maybe do act on it, or you know whatever, but just to kind of feel some kind of safe or commonality, or you know something. But you know that also goes with a lot of like bullies where in junior high or high school, where they end up being gay later on and they were the ones that were like calling me faggot, like all of those crazy things.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, I think I'm pretty sure we did talk about this a couple of years ago, about in high school. A girl gave me a bible for christmas well beyond destiny yeah, okay, so it sucks.
Speaker 1:It was christmas time and she was like she like called me or texted me I don't know where we're at with cell phones at that time, just makes me feel so old, but anyways and she was like, hey, I have your christmas gift. And I was like, oh, I have yours too. And like hung up the phone and I was like mom, I have to. It was like december 24th, I'm like I have to go buy deborah a. So I went and I got her like a really nice gift. This is.
Speaker 1:I'm really aging, I'm really aging myself right now, but when the Sirius XM satellite? Well, back when, there were two different companies, so the XM satellite radio, the one that you had the attachment to your, to your dash.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:I like. I bought her that with the year subscription Right.
Speaker 2:And do that with the year subscription right, and you know the bible she got like for free.
Speaker 1:Well, so I give her that gift. She gives me mine. I go home and I open it. It is a bible with all of the anti-gay verses highlighted in the in the note saying I'm gonna pray for you and your own and your homosexual lifestyle, whatever, and I and I was like I was shocked, like I was shocked. I can't yeah it was well Fast forward. About 15 years later I run into her and her wife.
Speaker 2:Exactly See, exactly she ended up being, you know family. Yeah, you know what I mean. So that definitely is a part of that internalized homophobia, because you know they got it forced on them from their parents or siblings or whoever, and that's the only way that they knew how to exude or be, because they themselves thought that they were wrong this whole time instead of living their truth.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean um, I wish I could say I really, I just, I just don't, I just don't, I can't relate. I mean, I am so privileged and blessed enough to say that I can't relate right, because I'll put it that way I've had a lot of my fun um, you know what I saw? Another thing homophobia. I was watching another. My tiktok algorithm is probably really fucked up right now. Um, thanks, I know right.
Speaker 2:Thank you, sawyer hemsley, and you're fantastic also ps, by the way, with the name like sawyer hemsley, come on now. He's obviously gonna be gay, I gay, I mean that's a fabulous name, that is a fabulous name.
Speaker 1:It's like a drag name, but already.
Speaker 2:No, that is top tier.
Speaker 1:I mean that's like a gold star gay picture. It's like two last names, but like also two first names.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's strange, Sorry, no, it's strange. It's strange, Sorry, no, that's hilarious. I was watching this little video today and it was funny because this girl, she was saying she's like yeah, the other day I had dreamed about having sex with a woman. So when I woke up I talked to my husband and I said, hey, I've been having these dreams about sleeping with women. Would you be okay if I went and experimented that? And then he says the fact that you think doing that wouldn't be cheating is homophobic.
Speaker 2:I don't get it I don't get it.
Speaker 1:I don't. Essentially, she was putting the whole having a same-sex relation. Same-sex relations is nothing, it's irrelevant, like they're nothing. They're objects, they're, they're not people, and she she goes. My husband had to tell me that a woman is not just an object, is not just whatever, that it is still a full-on relation, whether it's you know, so on and so forth but also I wonder, if, like, the tables were turned, I wonder if she would have been like yeah, no husband, you could go ahead and that's fine, that's not cheating.
Speaker 2:If you go with a guy like, I wonder, if just you know what, does that make sense?
Speaker 1:I don't know, would you, is that something you would do like, obviously in a hypothetical Okay?
Speaker 2:Well, not you but like, but you but not you.
Speaker 1:Of course I would be there.
Speaker 2:I'm going to come here, ew, stop. So, like you know, I just think that as long as they have that communication and she tries she asked yeah, it was good Then she's either going to do it behind his back or she's going to let that fantasy go, because it wasn't a dream, it was a fantasy that she was having right. Let's call it what it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's probably why the dream was happening. She obviously, it's obviously been on her mind.
Speaker 2:Right, which she probably had someone in mind.
Speaker 1:Probably, which leads me to another thing I need to figure out how to be less disarming.
Speaker 2:I'm at the point in my life. What do you mean?
Speaker 1:I yeah, Okay, well, I'm going to, I'm going to be very okay. First of all, people just tell me things, a lot of things. I mean, the other day I was at a bar in Iowa and I sat down as the patron, as the customer, and within 30 minutes I knew the bartender's entire life story, the fact that she was in prison, out of prison, her daughter hates her, her grandchildren.
Speaker 2:Her dog died two days earlier.
Speaker 1:I'm like this is supposed to be the other way around, girlfriend you, her dog died two days earlier. This is supposed to be the other way around, girlfriends. You know what I mean? Stop. But what I'm leading into is the fact that I am sick and tired of men admitting to me that either they have had homosexual straight men that they have had like relationship, like gay sex, in the past, or that they're curious about it. And I'm like stop it. Mainly because it's always the hot ones, like it's never the mainly because, like now that wasn't on my mind, now it's on my mind.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean you said it's always the hot ones, or it's never the hot ones well, no, it's always the hot ones, like the ones that tell me I'm like help them out. They're reaching out, that's like they're like they're testing the waters and they see you and they want to.
Speaker 1:You know, try it with you, or like see how you perceive it and then just drop to your knees and get it done though I see it as the fact that they felt comfortable enough to share that with me. Not like hey, because my thing is, if they wanted to try it everyone knows that they can download an app and go and get it I just felt they finally felt comfortable enough to say the words to someone else and it's like one. Now I have this knowledge that I have to keep private. Two it was never on my mind. I never saw you that way. Yeah, yeah, I can admit that you're an attractive man right.
Speaker 2:But I never saw you that way. Hold on. You're saying that these are people you actually know and friends, yes. No, these are people that I actually know, oh, yeah.
Speaker 1:And it happens enough for me to say it happens like that. It's becoming a bothersome, because now those thoughts are in my head and I'm like what was there at? Again just kidding, just kidding yeah and I just, and then I always have to be like, or the ones that I'm so that like, the ones that maybe I'm really surprised, because there's some where I'm like yeah, I kind of figured.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean, not because they were effeminate or whatnot, I'm just like but the ones that really surprised me. I have to pretend like I'm not surprised because, ultimately, I want us to be like, like europe, you know. I want us to be like other countries where people can go and men can flip back and forth whatever they want and not be judged by female partners like have that I want men to have the same privileges when it comes to homosexuality that women have.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that would be ideal. So when someone tells me, I'm shocked, I'm like all right, cool, did you have a good time Cool?
Speaker 2:Did you learn about yourself? Yeah, I think this younger generation, though, is kind of paving the way for that, because they're like, oh, it's like homie, sexual, or whatever. And I'm like, oh, call it whatever you want, but they'll do it with like bros, but they're not going to do it with like you or I, or whatever, and I'm like good riddance, I wouldn't want you to have a small pecker, whatever. You know what I mean, but it's just um h? O, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1:I saw you typing I'm looking it up right now. Homie sexual is basically slang, a tongue-in-cheek internet word started as a meme. Being affectionate with your homie hugging, cuddling, holding hands. I'm doing a lot more.
Speaker 2:Exactly Right. Funny, it's just like homosexual ties in with like a bro job, if you know what that means.
Speaker 2:You know instead of right I don't tell me no, but oh, but, um, you know, I think that at the end of the day, when it really comes down to, is, you know, I think that TikToker, like shame on him, yeah, um, for bringing too much attention to it. Um, you know, I think in the long run he was, um, doing him a favor, sure, but just wait, like who, what rights do you have? Or who do you think you are to? Like, you know, know, just because you're out and proud, I mean, let them come out at their time when they're ready, and like don't, don't be that judgy at that, like that's messy, that's shady, that's that's wrong. But yet you know, in this climate that we're in, that we could say certain things and not certain things, why is it okay for him to do it that versus other things. You know what I mean yeah, no, like, like like has he received backlash?
Speaker 2:like what has been the outcome from um? You know, did he lose followers?
Speaker 1:like what took up to me on that grant gibbs. No, yeah, so he did receive a lot of negative backlash where he put out a half-ass apology video. Um, but it's done. It's done like you can't take it back anymore no, you can't.
Speaker 2:It's the internet, it's.
Speaker 1:It's there forever literally, internet is forever, but now he put an apology video like that wasn't his intention. But like you, you you made a video to bring attention to yourself at the expense of someone else exactly, and that that first and foremost is, is, I mean, that's repulsive, that's that's.
Speaker 2:You know, you're just trying to get views and you're trying, like it's like, are you not that good to do that yourself? You have to throw someone else under the bus or, you know, reap the benefits of bringing in a different name, so that way, to make yourself look better. For what's the word I'm looking for? Notoriety, fame, publicity publicity, right, all of that, but there's like like a now word that people use virality?
Speaker 1:I don't know virality?
Speaker 2:um no any, but I dig. I'm just saying that you know.
Speaker 1:Shame on him there was a girl, I'm sorry, there's a girl I went to school with. I was in college and I had a professor who would always go off on tangents and then he'd be like anyways, I digress. And then one day she was like why does so-and-so always tell us when he's digesting?
Speaker 1:oh my god, I miss her. Oh yeah, she did not make it very far anyways. Um no, yeah, I found that. I found that whole story really fascinating. I went down to rabble hole of it. Um, guys, go check out. I think he's an handsome man. He's got a jawline like no other boy loves his squats, he loves his squat. So if you want to go, take a look at that and he's.
Speaker 2:He's like a suzy homemaker he bakes cookies did you see that, if you hold, on. No, no, no, no, real quick, because my, I, my, my laptop's not working right now. Look up crumble cookie and like, click on where it says my story and then just read that little excerpt. I wanted to do it, but my computer, it's on my phone no, I got you, I got you, I got you.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm going to come quickly right now it's hilarious.
Speaker 2:And then you're going to see that little pink cadillac this is funny.
Speaker 1:I have to accept all cookies on the cookie website, but whatever reject.
Speaker 1:All right, so we'll go to our story. Um, you're lying to me. There's no, I found it. I found it. Found it okay. So that's the mary k cadillac, all right, exactly, exactly, quite literally, okay. Crumble's origin begins with two crazy cousins and a perfect combination of flour, sugar and chocolate chips. They were created in 2017, with the co-founders Jason McGowan and Sawyer Hemsley teamed up on a quest to bake the perfect chocolate chip cookie. Wow, after the Crumble Milk Chocolate Cookie was born, born, the founders and their families opened up their first location in utah. Uh, there they are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they look like a couple right, I told you yeah, you guys, you guys need to go check this out.
Speaker 2:This is absurd that little pink cadillac cartoon, though it's adorable.
Speaker 1:It's adorable, but like I mean it.
Speaker 2:It literally looks like the mary k cadillac cartoon, though it's adorable, but, like I, mean it.
Speaker 1:It literally looks like the Mary Kay Cadillac and uh, it is pink, it is them two, they look. This is literally like Bernie's dream, right here, right, exactly, yeah.
Speaker 2:So when I read that, little first paragraph, like the funny part was the on to the perfect quest to make the perfect chocolate chip. I'm like, okay, Like you know what I mean. I'm like you know what I mean it really is.
Speaker 1:In 2017, when co-founders Jason McGowan and Sawyer Hemsley teamed up on a quest to bake the perfect chocolate chip cookie, they dreamt of bringing people together over a box of the best cookies in the world and not just any box.
Speaker 1:A pink literally a pink box. So let's try to go for, like, the pink box donut thing seems to be real popular. Um, well, I guess. Um, if you guys haven't had crumple cookies, go check them out. But go check out sawyer hamsley, he's pretty handsome. Check out his uh apparent cousins. Apparently I had no idea they were cousins. Um, who somehow has like five kids, but who's?
Speaker 1:also just as just as I mean. If we're, if we are going to be pre pre judgmental, presumptuous, um, just as gay as sawyer hamsley, but got a wife and kids. So you do with that as you may no, absolutely not. Um, what do you have coming up, aj? What's going on with you? So exciting in your future.
Speaker 2:I don't I mean the social seasons upon us. So post-September um, the tale of September is when all the events are going on, and um october, obviously, like I'm already booked, all of october uh I forgot, october is your super bowl I mean it's the. I mean it kicks off the so, and then it's like friendsgiving and all of that thing. Then it's like the holidays and it's new year's. Like I'm telling, like I'm about to be super exhausted. Speaking of exhausted, did I tell you I was doing a step challenge with my coworkers?
Speaker 1:What is that?
Speaker 2:So we downloaded an app. It's called Step Up and it tracks your steps right so you could put like a group together and it's a 30 day challenge of like who's going to have the highest steps. And I got so competitive and I went from like being a lazy bum on the couch to waking up at six in the morning to go to the gym and walk for three miles on the treadmill and then after work walk two miles on the treadmill like I'm going crazy okay.
Speaker 1:So I love this about you because you are super competitive. We all know that every little thing that you do, I know. So the fact that you've, you know, took this one path of being your competitive path and then crossed it with, like a fitness thing, if that's a win-win for you I know right and right before halloween, because I need to dress like a slut.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean like, that's just like what I totally put on doing so obvi um what about?
Speaker 1:you, so I my work travels are starting to slow down. I've been gone all summer long, I do have a couple more trips I will be heading to uh well, I guess uh crumble cookies headquarters um I'll be going to salt lake city.
Speaker 2:Utah, oh cute.
Speaker 1:Um, on monday I'll be there for a couple of weeks. I get back and then two days later I'm taking off to st louis missouri never been there before not excited about going, but excited about seeing something new. Yeah and uh. And then I think I'm gonna go to new york for a couple days after that to go see a little show Fun. It all depends on what's happening, because I also got to figure out where I'm going to live and where I'm going to move and whatnot.
Speaker 2:But yeah, Doesn't St Louis like, don't they have that big arch or something?
Speaker 1:They have that big arch which I have zero desires to go up. It's not that I'm afraid of heights.
Speaker 2:I don't think you can climb it. Can you climb it? Can you go up there?
Speaker 1:No, you don't climb it.
Speaker 2:No, I mean, you can't go up there, oh, like not Godzilla, or King Kong.
Speaker 1:No there is. No, there is a whole little cart that you get inside. It takes you all the way up to the very top, an observatory, a lookout or whatever, but it's very small, very cramped and um.
Speaker 2:I won't be doing that no, absolutely not that's other people stuff I meant for like a far away photo with it in the background, not like I will.
Speaker 1:I'll take one of those for the gram um, but yeah, no, so that's that's. That's what I'm going up. I'm more excited about my my salt lake city trip on Monday. I get to travel with my closer group of friends. We're going to have a good time. What?
Speaker 2:Are you going to go get a blowout?
Speaker 1:I am going to go to Park City. I will be in Park City, that's already planned. I've been growing it out. I've been growing it out so I can get my blowout.
Speaker 2:That's a good callback oh my season one episode exactly which?
Speaker 1:by the way, not this year, but I think no I think next year. I think next year jen shaw gets out of prison you know who just got out.
Speaker 2:I mean we're gonna have a little like housewife girl who um the one from potomac?
Speaker 1:oh, the dui girl, she got the dui right yeah, she just got out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah and she was looking like fierce, walking in like stilettos on the cobblestone path. It was insane. She did good um but um. On the assault late, that one that show's about to start Isn't the 16th of this month.
Speaker 1:Yes, and I'm going to be, we are both going to be on it, on it, on it, on it, on it, yes, okay, let's do one quick gay advice.
Speaker 2:Okay, what Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 2:You first.
Speaker 1:This is from metrosourcecom. Ask Daddy, is the column.
Speaker 2:My favorite.
Speaker 1:You would love it, dear Daddy. Okay, so my question is rather odd. I have never met anyone, or heard of anyone, in the same boat as me besides women. Is it normal for me to not finish during sex? I love having sex with guys. I'm a bottom and I'm good at what I do.
Speaker 1:The pleasure I get is amazing, but I haven't had a sexual partner make me finish yet. I don't know what it is. I definitely know I am at least 98% gay and I've had success with toys and fleshlights and taking care of myself, but when it comes to bottoming, it's like my front side switches off. There have been times where I feel like I have gotten there but I haven't. However, I'm always satisfied when the outcome, when my top finishes. I have had guys ghost me because I could not orgasm when we were intimate, but I could by manual means. Do you think this is a problem, Because I don't see it as one until guys stop seeing me because of it. Is there anything that you can suggest that I try Would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, daddy. Signed Declan. What are your?
Speaker 2:thoughts question so does um, when he says he can manual like, is he not pleasuring himself at the same time as during the action of of that intercourse, um? So or is he trying to do like a hands-free thing, um, which of course he's never going to orgasm that that way? If he's trying to do it hands-free, it's like a combination thing that you have to do.
Speaker 1:Right, right, I mean I would imagine. So I mean we could ask Sawyer. But no, I am reading this line here again. I just got it. I'm reading this line here again. So the line says I have had guys ghost me because I couldn't finish when we were intimate, but I could by manual means.
Speaker 2:So yeah, I'm not sure exactly what he's asking.
Speaker 2:So I mean, if he's saying that he could like, you know, alone and manually do it that way with his mano, then okay, then obviously he can't. But if he's just trying to do like the hands-free thing, um and, and not like just orgasm like that without touching himself while he's getting penetrated, then I mean, you're that's few and far between like. Yeah, that's few and far between Like. That's happened like in my entire gay sex life. It has happened like like less than a handful of times, like where, you know, I've orgasmed without touching myself while while that having sex.
Speaker 1:But you know, it's mostly a combination that they have to do okay, but also, he said, his front doesn't work, so I wonder if he's just like not hard or erect when he's, but he could with toys.
Speaker 2:He didn't mention which kinds of toys, so I'm just going to assume. Obviously he mentioned the um, the pocket, or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 1:A flashlight.
Speaker 2:A flashlight. Thank you so much. I can't believe I said that.
Speaker 1:I know I'm going to bleep that word out. Yes, oh my God, yes.
Speaker 2:Cover that up, so, and the other one obviously like a dildo or whatever, and you can bleep that one too. But with those toys toys you know you're doing it your own way, and if you've done that for so long and then you try doing it with some, maybe that the, the motion in the ocean that that person, that boat, is trying to do, isn't the motion that you need, if that makes sense you know it does.
Speaker 1:Now, um, I'm gonna tell you that daddy took it a slightly different, different direction.
Speaker 2:Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1:So daddy says hey, I think it's important to remember he's like hey, declan, I think it's important to remember that the biggest sex organs humans have is the one between their ears, not between their legs. Since you seem to have no difficulty finishing when there's no pressure on you to perform, I'm going to suggest that your real issue is not your sexual dysfunction but trouble with being intimate. If you wanted to see a doctor, I'd recommend a therapist first. Now you don't mention whether these fellas are hookups or they're dates or they're boyfriends, but I'm guessing that if you felt as comfortable with your sex partners as you do when you're alone, your problem would most likely vanish.
Speaker 1:I don't see why these men are ghosting you. I don't know why these men are ghosting you, and neither do you, but it's at least possible that one of them might be less unhappy with your performance in bed than your ability to be comfortable with them. Here's what I recommend Let the guys who ghost you, let them go, lean into the company of those who don't care. If you achieve a blast off, you might consider seeing more than one patient. You might consider seeing a more patient man, especially those who regard sex as a way to connect rather than a way to just get off. You have to sacrifice quantity for quality. That's where I draw the line, but that's one of the things that makes um porn a pleasant distraction.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so he said it's all in his head, essentially you know, and that does make sense when, when he does say it that way, what I immediately get is um, I don't have the word for it um, we're not asexual, but we're there. They need to kind of be in a relationship with someone in order to get off or harder to, to even instigate that sexual, like arousal is that there. They need to be connected with that person is it demi?
Speaker 2:but I, but I think, so I think, that is it I think, I think it is demi, demi lovato demisexual, um, demisexual.
Speaker 1:If it tells me demi, nobody else, I'd be so mad. Uh, it means a demisexual person doesn't feel a sexual attraction of someone right away. They usually experience attraction after forming a strong emotional bond with that person.
Speaker 2:Good job, we learned something new today. I did anyways.
Speaker 1:That was cute. That was cute. Poor Declan. I hope he can get himself fixed. No, he's not broken.
Speaker 2:He's not broken I hope he finds the right person for him, that will, you know, help him get his knock his socks off.
Speaker 1:I hope he finds his right demi-glaze. No pun intended. Anyways, AJ, AJ this has been an absolute pleasure.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:You're gorgeous as always, and I can't wait until we do this again in a couple of weeks, right.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Awesome. Do you have any final words for our listener?
Speaker 2:No, just don't be that shameful gay on TikTok and call people out. Just let people come out at their own time. And who are you to judge? Just because you were probably judged, I mean, why would you want someone else to experience that? Don't do that, so be good.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, are you giving a lesson on not being judgmental?
Speaker 2:No, first of all. First of all, I'm more of a do as they say, not as they do person. You know that and everyone knows that. That's probably listening.
Speaker 1:So you know? Oh my god, aj, I love you so much. Um, with that said, guys, go follow aj the silver fox at aj the silver fox on instagram and probably everywhere else you can follow me at. I don't even know my twitter anymore or my tiktok, because it got shut down. Don't want to talk about it. That'll be next week's episode. Anyways, guys, we will see you soon, take care. Thank you, bye.
