#47: Style, Status & a Little Self-Delusion (w/guest host: Stephanie Lopez)

Okay so Jay finally has an in-person guest (Stephanie) and within seconds they go from cute boys to a full breakdown of “designer delusion” - aka thinking a Lululemon outfit will fix your life all while Jay casually admits he ordered multiple Fashion Nova packages to the wrong addresses and just accepted his fate...

Then Steph counters with “I didn’t shop for 4.5 years” (shade), so now we’re talking confidence, body changes, and “if you look good you feel good”

Then SOMEHOW (eyeroll) they derail into 90s fashion, JFK Love Story, hot actors, and why everyone has the same iPhone face.

..and all of a sudden it’s an adulting episode (like...what??): deep freezer, Costco executive membership, buying a house, financial stress.

But then they finally end on AI chaos, lazy coworkers, and somehow… six-finger crime rings.

This episode is delusional chaos and it works.

Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:00

Well, hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to Dose of Delusion. It is me, your host, yours truly,

Welcome And Meet Stephanie

SPEAKER_03 0:06

Jay. And I'm switching it up today for the first time in a very, very long time. I'm actually like present in the flesh with a guest host today. I haven't been in the flesh with a host in a long time. Not even my longtime host, AJ, but I'm here today in person with the lovely, the beautiful, the little Latina Spitfire, Stephanie herself. Stephanie, how are you? Tell us everything.

SPEAKER_01 0:29

I'm doing amazing. I'm so happy to be here in person. This is my first podcast guest thing. I hope there's more.

SPEAKER_03 0:36

I hope so too. I guess we'll see how this one goes. No, like obviously I've been talking about a little bit more than usual, and you have taken some interest. And the conversations that we have had, girl, behind the scenes have been hot. The tea is hot. Um, anyway, so for those of you who don't know, I know Stephanie through work. Um, we do get to travel a lot together. We're gonna see a lot more of her this year. And um, we have a lot of the same interests. The first one being cute boys. Um, and the second one, of course, all of our professional stuff we don't want to talk about too much. Um, anyway, Stephanie, what has been going on? What's all the hot gossip? How are you?

SPEAKER_01 1:11

I'm doing well. Um, I don't know. I think there's a couple conversations we have to bring up. Are we designer delusional? Are we into all right?

SPEAKER_03 1:22

Stephanie knows how to work a podcast already name-dropping, you know, parts of the I need to work on actually saying the word delusion more often.

SPEAKER_01 1:29

Yes, are we designer delusional or or are we, you know, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 1:35

Um, can you what what do you mean by designer delusional?

SPEAKER_01 1:40

I don't think it's a real term. I think I'm just coining it right now.

SPEAKER_03 1:43

Bitch, you're crazy. Okay, tell me, tell me everything.

SPEAKER_01 1:49

I think if I have to give it a, I don't know, definition right now at the moment, it's gonna have to be like people

What Designer Delusion Really Means

SPEAKER_01 1:56

think if they put on this brand name thing, it's gonna change who they are, right? And right to a certain extent, we can say possibly. But it's, you know, just because you put on a certain pair of leggings, you're not gonna look like that model.

SPEAKER_03 2:09

Oh, I'm actually really glad you brought that up. So that leads me down a different sidetrack of the, oh my God, I'm gonna get canceled. I'm gonna you can't cancel,

Body Positivity Versus Advertising Dreams

SPEAKER_03 2:18

cancel. So, like the brands, the way it stores the what the body inclusivity. Yeah. There we go. The body positivity I'm talking about. And I think in like our political climate, it's it's a little more exaggerated than it should be on both sides of the of the line. I don't know how you want to say it, but they're saying, you know, now they're using a lot of models that are beyond plus size models, beautiful people themselves, but beyond plus size models or like the disfigurements and whatnot. And people are saying that it needs to be inclusive, but the advertisers will say, We're not, we're what we're selling is we are selling the aspiration or the dream, which is why we only use that double zero or the washboard abs or whatnot. But I think people do buy those in hopes to feel that way with what they see. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:12

Making sense. I do think that's a part of like a whole marketing scheme.

SPEAKER_03 3:16

Okay. Uh scheme. Scheme. Calling them out. Um, but what do you feel about like you said Lululemon? So what do you feel about like brand names?

SPEAKER_01 3:26

I think I like brand names tastefully. And if you really do like that specific structure design, like totally go for it, right? We were talking yesterday about you liking certain things from Costco and Amazon and all this other stuff, which I agree. I love as well. I have not shopped. There was a certain time period where I didn't shop for four and a half years. I know it sounds unreal, but I didn't. I would just wear my same clothes. Some of it is from Target, some of it, you know, is from Aritzia, and I would just continuously use it because just because it's fast fashion doesn't mean it has to end up in the landfill again. But um, sorry. Not trying to call you out.

SPEAKER_03 4:04

All right, you are clocking my tea. So, yes, I listener, she did say landfill. And the reason why she said that is because I often have really what's the word I'm looking like, a bad joke? What's the word I'm looking like a distasteful joke? Where I'm talking about, you know, I do fast fashion. I mean, I I do enjoy brand names on certain things, you know, um, they're like

Brand Names And Fast Fashion Logic

SPEAKER_03 4:25

certain electronics or kitchen wares. People don't know. I love me a little tour around the kitchen. I love to cook and bake. Um, I'm really big on brand names, but like when it comes to clothes, because of how rapidly my body is changing uh for lots of different reasons. I I can't foresee myself spending a pretty penny on an item that just may not fit in six months or you know, next season when it is. Because I think you could probably agree with me, right, Stephanie. Some of these, um, when you are paying for these luxury and hopefully because luxury does not equal quality.

SPEAKER_01 4:54

No, it does not. Right.

SPEAKER_03 4:55

But you get a luxury and a quality item, it's typically timeless. Like it's good, it's gonna last through the trends. All right, so let's say I do buy something like that. It may not fit me next year. So I can't, I'm I I am a fast fashion a holic where I will get on Amazon and Shein and Fashion Nova, which girl, let me tell you something about Fashion Nova. And it's not their fault, it's actually my I'm a certifiable dumb bitch. So we get here. We get here, what, a week ago? Yes, and I packed really light

The Fashion Nova Address Disaster

SPEAKER_03 5:30

because I've this is every April is my spring and summer shopping ritual. And the last two years, I've also been back here in this same town for work, and I just get online and I buy pretty much an entire new wardrobe. Yeah, lots of the short shorts, the shirts. I do I love my Amazon shoes and the basics.

SPEAKER_04 5:51

I agree.

SPEAKER_03 5:51

Um, the whole thing. And so I packed really light and I got on Fashion Nova and I built my whole new wardrobe. Actually, I only got a few items, to be honest. I was testing. It wasn't that much money, it was like $95 worth of clothes, which for Fashion Nova is a handful of items, right? Anyways, and I ordered them to the wrong address. And me being impatient, I chose like overnight next day delivery. So when I went to Fashionova and I was like, hey girls, like I fucked up. I need to change the address. They're like, sure, like enter it here on the app. And I did. And then like 30 minutes later, it was like, oh, we can only deliver to previous addresses. Girl, I've been to this hotel.

SPEAKER_04 6:28

Yeah, that doesn't even make sense.

SPEAKER_03 6:29

This has been an address, but it wasn't the same hotel room number. So they were like, sorry, we can't help you, but you can try the carrier when the carrier gets it. Girl, I did 24 hour shipping.

SPEAKER_02 6:40

I had inflation max.

SPEAKER_03 6:43

I know other problems we can talk about. I had such a small window.

SPEAKER_02 6:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 6:47

So as soon as I got that UPS notification, they're like, hey, we got your we got your tracking number. It's on the way. I'm like, all right, I'm gonna change it. I put all the information in. Guess how much it cost me? Was gonna cost me because I didn't pay for it to change my ad to divert it, going to my old, not even my current place in DC, a formal location in DC. Guess how much it was gonna cost? I said gas.

SPEAKER_01 7:14

I'm gonna say they're gonna charge you the same exact amount of what your items are eighty five.

SPEAKER_03 7:19

I wish $160 to just to change. I was like, that's almost double what I spent on the clothes.

SPEAKER_01 7:26

They said that gas. They're gonna charge you for the gas.

SPEAKER_03 7:30

The gas, darling, in this economy. Oh God. So I like forfeited that. Then I did a duplicate order. I was like, forget it. I'll pick it up later. My concierge, she calls me and she's like, Mr. Mr. Jay, we got your clothes. I was like, just leave them. I'll I'll pick them up later. So I ordered a duplicate order. Girl, I just still didn't order it to this hotel. I ordered it to my current address in DC. So now I got two packages of clothes that I cannot access for another week. So Okay. To the landfill they go. Anyways, back to your Lululemon.

SPEAKER_01 8:03

So are we gonna have to order here?

SPEAKER_03 8:06

So I ordered a third package.

SPEAKER_01 8:07

Okay, I love new clothes I hold.

SPEAKER_03 8:09

I ordered a third package to the right address. I did receive them. Um, I was actually really, really happy that uh I mean, the universe owed me the favor. Yeah. Everything that ordered actually fit, including I ordered, I ordered pants as well. So like waist and leg fit well. So the universe owed me that favor. They came in. God did serve with both hands today. So we are squared away with that.

SPEAKER_01 8:30

I love that. And listen, there's nothing wrong with fast fashion. Again, I just I grew up one of those people where my parents would be like, we have an event this weekend, we have to

Looking Good And Feeling Confident

SPEAKER_01 8:40

go to the mall. It was like a new outfit for every event, which is so unnecessary. So when I say I didn't shop for four and a half years, it was a big deal because it was like a personal thing. Okay. Really just like save money and be able to like be resourceful with what I did have and then budget myself so that I can achieve other goals, you know.

SPEAKER_03 8:58

But you know, I I actually I love that because I'm also I mean, again, I do I did say I do a lot of fast fashion, but I don't think I'm wearing things that look like crap.

SPEAKER_04 9:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 9:10

I I yeah, I may be able to only wash them three times before it disintegrates, but for those three wears, it looks pretty sharp if you ask me. And I do get a lot of compliments and I don't think they're fake. But I like how you said how you were raised because like I wasn't raised that way. We would go to a lot of events, and I'm I mean, I'm not hating on my mother's style, but it's just how she was raised in her childhood. You know, I watched my mom put on the same Easter dress for Easter for like 15 years in a row, you know what I mean? And if my dad, whether it was a wedding or a funeral or a promotion or a business dinner or whatnot, it was the same nice jeans and the nice blazer. Mind you, his body shape changed a million times. That blazer shape was never realtered. Let's just picture that.

SPEAKER_04 9:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 9:56

So growing up that way, I didn't want to be that way. So I may not go to the mall for every event, but if I know I'm going to something, I'm on Amazon, I'm on Fashion Nova, and I'm click-click shipping.

SPEAKER_01 10:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:08

24-hour shipping.

SPEAKER_01 10:10

Immediately.

SPEAKER_03 10:11

I need it here.

SPEAKER_01 10:12

I need it delivered in the next three hours. Five dollars. I love that. Which I'm literally, I'm like, this is evil, but we are ruining the world.

SPEAKER_03 10:19

Yeah, we are the ozone layer is because of us and the fuel coming out of that you that that Amazon driver truck. I that's the beauty about living in the big cities. Because we're you live in a big city. Do you want to say where you live?

SPEAKER_01 10:30

Yeah. I live in Jersey.

SPEAKER_03 10:31

Jersey. I'm from the DMV, the DC metro area, and it is amazing that I can have almost anything I want delivered in like two hours or less. And I scary. It is.

SPEAKER_01 10:43

Yeah. I have two things actually I want to touch on with that.

SPEAKER_03 10:46

Go.

SPEAKER_01 10:46

All right. First one. I will also say by me not shopping and like using all that clothes for those four and a half years, which it was a conversation that my parents had to like sit down and like, Steph, please go enjoy yourself. You're in your 20s. Like, there's nothing wrong with like spending your money and like you know, adding to your wardrobe or whatever. And I'm like, yeah, but no. So my best friend, they had a conversation with her. You ever had your parents do that? Like, talk to Jeremy, please talk to him. So she came and she was like, Steph, like, mind you, she's like the opposite spectrum. She still loves to shop. She has a crazy amount of clothes. Um, and just like all cool stuff. And there's certain things where I'm like, you need to let that go, girl. And she's like, no, like I know what I can wear this with. I'm keeping this. But they both did help me, and then I went on like this crazy run. But what that reminded me of, where you said, like, you know, your dad's body change and whatnot, I can't say I was like super, I felt good about myself, but I didn't feel super confident about myself in a certain extent because the clothes wasn't fitting me right. Because now I'm out of college and I'm maybe a little bit more sedentary. And like, you know, I had a COVID really bad, like more than once, and I had a crazy pain in my back. I had to like gain weight at a certain point. And it's like I didn't feel good because I didn't look good. And I do think that sometimes the way that you put yourself together, my basketball coaches used to say this because we had gotten new uniforms, and they were like, if you look good, you feel good, and if you feel good, you perform better. And I do think I'd start like I do live by that a little bit. And after all that, I like had to sit down myself and say, like, it's okay. I started off with some capital things, like, not super expensive. I just wanted things that were like good quality. I went to UniGlo for like a black and a white top, and then like, you know, I had tried on a bunch of different jeans and just like things like that. And then I agree. I think that you can go and spend something on Amazon with this like more trendy and like cute. Yes, right. And then I don't know. I'm not telling you, like, oh my gosh, you need to go to Rick Owens to get the new ripped jeans. No, I also think that's a waste of your resources and again the marketing scheme that gets behind people.

SPEAKER_03 12:56

Okay. Um, sorry to shift gears here, but you talk about like jeans and fashion and trends. I recently watched a TV show, and I think you started it too,

JFK Love Story And 90s Style

SPEAKER_03 13:05

and it's like making me fall in love with 90s New York. Not that I grew up in 90s New York, but we've all seen the older Vogue and Calvin Klein models and ads and whatnot. Have you been watching JFK Love Story?

SPEAKER_01 13:18

I just started because of you. Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 13:21

Influencer. Influency influencer.

SPEAKER_01 13:24

I'm obsessed. The TikTok influencers could not get me to watch it. Everyone's like, I want to be Kylan Bassett. And I'm like, you guys think everything is cool. And then when they come out and are evil, you're like, how didn't we know? And I'm like, discernment, babe. You guys have non.

SPEAKER_02 13:38

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:39

But I started, I love it. The lighting of the show, just like the outfits. Like, how realistic. There's cigarettes in every scene. That was real.

SPEAKER_03 13:47

That cinematography was actually on point. Uh, I'm I'm so glad it didn't look too glamorous. Like some it is a glamorizer, or it's a Ryan Murphy production. I don't know how involved he is. He just is an EP. Um, but he likes, he has a habit of making things look very glitz and glamour. I'm like that Nick, that not that what's her name. Kim Kardashian show that she did that recently, the scripting.

SPEAKER_01 14:09

Is it horror story or all's fair?

SPEAKER_03 14:11

All's fair. You know, that show was like 10 out of 10 glitz and glamour. He has a trend of that, so I was really happy that this wasn't that way. But um, that cinematography was gorgeous. The cigarettes, I mean, that was very everybody smoke in 90s New York. The fashion.

SPEAKER_01 14:26

I loved it. And it was like so simple.

SPEAKER_03 14:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:29

But it was like, it looked good. And I also sort of kind of people, all right. Tell me Gen Z and whatever Alpha, Gen Alpha now, they're always like, oh my gosh, you guys are in business casual at the club. And what about it? And we could afford to go to the club. Yeah. Y'all are not in the club.

SPEAKER_03 14:44

We're drinking. We can pay for it.

SPEAKER_01 14:46

But it was definitely a thing. And I feel like even in the 90s, it was like, how do I convert this look? I remember it in makeup too. I don't know if you remember that. It was like, how to convert your daytime look to a nighttime look. You don't have to go home and completely change your outfit.

SPEAKER_03 15:00

I am so glad you're saying that. One of my dearest and closest friends, Renee, if you're hearing this, I'm sorry, I love you. Every time I wear it, get like would go somewhere, she'd be like, You can't wear that. Like, that's not, that's not, she would say, like, that's not a nighttime, we're gonna be out at night. I'm like, Yes, I can.

SPEAKER_04 15:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 15:14

You know what I mean? I don't, I'm not gonna go and redo my clothes and my makeup. I don't wear makeup, but you know what I mean? Like, I should be able to go out all day and all night. Um, I can't get over the fashion in that. I I can't love it. And you said so simplistic, but I've done so well. Can we talk about how handsome that actor is?

SPEAKER_01 15:34

He really is. He just had a baby. His wife said, I'm locking in.

SPEAKER_03 15:38

No shit. You know, one of my other, like, I her name's Michelle Collins. She has a podcast, uh, radio show host, the whole thing. But she was like, Girl, if if I was his wife, I would not let my man out of the house. No. Now that he's, you know, a bombshell that he is. I mean, a superstar mega stuff.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

Mind you, I'm sure, I'm sure he was already getting looks before he was even popular.

SPEAKER_03 15:58

Yeah, because he's Canadian and he was like a model aspiring actor, and guess it's obviously gonna be his breakout role. That that is one thing Ryan Murphy knows how to do is find a little gay boy. He's not gay, but make him famous.

SPEAKER_01 16:09

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 16:10

But make him famous.

SPEAKER_01 16:11

I like that though. I feel like we've had a lot of like big stint of just like, let's reuse the same three actors, and I'm bored. They're good actors, but I'm bored, and I'm like, I want to see a new face.

SPEAKER_03 16:19

I guess mix it up a little bit. It's like his hair, his voice, his everything.

SPEAKER_01 16:24

Just like nice.

SPEAKER_03 16:26

I but also been looking up on like YouTube and other videos of the actual JFK Jr. And they the casting did amazing because he actually looks so similar. JFK Jr. didn't have quite a perfect nose as this guy does. Yeah, but other than the nose, it is a nine out of ten resemblance. Even the voice. So I'm not sure.

SPEAKER_01 16:48

I have to look into that. I remember you mentioning it, and I still don't know what if his voice actually sounded like.

SPEAKER_03 16:53

His voice, I'm probably going to explain this so wrong, but or describe it, it's almost a voice of pain. It's a voice of yearning, you know, and it I assume the actor, I assume that was the actor's tonation. Then I thought, well, no, maybe he's doing it because he's really trying to just draw out or express that pain. Uh for those of you who you don't have to watch the show to know that there were a lot of struggles with him growing up in the public eye, trying to have a normal romantic life, and the pain and dealing with that, of dealing with that not only with himself, but with his significant other.

SPEAKER_04 17:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:33

And he was always like in a sense of emotional distress. And the voice really expressed that. But when I go back and watch videos of actual JFK Jr., he has that same voice. Yeah. Um, I think it I think it was done masterclass on it. It needs to happen. Um, it was so good.

SPEAKER_01 17:54

But did you okay? So also did you end up looking up the act? I think the actress as well for Carolyn Bassett was amazing. But there was another actress and she looked identical to like the real life OG, and they didn't choose her, I think, because of her acting is again what I read online, right? What I read on Twitter, and I just thought it was interesting because then people are like, Oh, everyone is so obsessed with like a perfect casting, but the acting has to follow along with it. So, how do you feel about that? If he had looked a little different, but his acting wasn't as on point.

SPEAKER_03 18:28

I do think him, I can't remember his name right now.

SPEAKER_01 18:32

Oh, Paul Kelly, I think.

SPEAKER_03 18:33

I think you're right.

SPEAKER_01 18:34

Right.

SPEAKER_03 18:35

I do think him, the actor that his I think he's a better actor than the actor that played Carolina Besetz Sarah Pigeon.

SPEAKER_04 18:43

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 18:43

I think Sarah Pigeon came off as a uh again, a perfect actress uh the first few episodes, and then it kind of fell flat. And that could have been maybe that could have been how she was written to act. Yeah. So maybe she's just an amazing actor. But I kind of felt myself because I've watched all eight or nine, nine, eight or nine episodes, and I'm like, girls, the same thing. Like it is like your your expressions aren't changing, nothing has changed. Is it the Botox?

SPEAKER_01 19:08

Um, maybe that's what it is, and that's a big issue with stuff nowadays. That's how I felt with like the most recent couple seasons of Bridgerton. Have you watched?

SPEAKER_03 19:17

No.

SPEAKER_01 19:18

The first seasons were good because there were expressions, but then I'm just like watching it and I'm like, oh, she has iPhone face. Like this would not make sense in whatever era. And I was like not a fan of that.

SPEAKER_03 19:31

iPhone face. Tell me what iPhone face is.

SPEAKER_01 19:33

iPhone face. I wanna, I I wanna chalk it up to Kim Kardashian. I'm a Kim K fan. I love her for many different reasons, right? We can get into that later. Yeah, but essentially, a bunch of people will get stuff done to their face, whether it's filler, Botox, actual like surgery, right? Nip and tuck to look a particular way. And then everyone just looks the same and they have no expressions, and it's like you've had a lobotomy, and you just want to talk like this. And even though you're from Greenwich, you have a California accent.

SPEAKER_03 20:02

That valley Valley girl accent. I actually love to mimic it. One thing that yeah, yeah, yeah. You're you're so spot on with that. You should play the next. You should play Kim Kardashian.

SPEAKER_01 20:12

Kim Kardashian. Hey guys, I'm meant to be famous.

SPEAKER_03 20:16

Okay, let's stop that right there. Um no, yeah, I I've been a substance at that show. A lot of other things I've just been so into. Uh, but that was the most recent one I finished uh after, like first of all, like I did watch Heated Rivalry.

SPEAKER_01 20:32

Um I haven't watched it yet.

SPEAKER_03 20:33

I watched Heated Rivalry. Oh, you haven't?

SPEAKER_01 20:35

No, I keep seeing it, and I'm like Girl.

SPEAKER_03 20:38

Last episode I I invited, I had a straight ally on, good friend of mine. Um if you he, I love him to death. He's amazing, but we had a huge debate on it because he was like, it was just you know an excuse to have you know practically gay porn on TV.

SPEAKER_01 20:52

Oh, erotica.

SPEAKER_03 20:53

And then I, right? Exactly. MLM is a big thing right now. And then I was like, no, I find this big, huge foundation of like, you know, forbidden love and coming out and all that. And we had a huge debate that led into a really deep like identity crisis between the both of us. It was amazing. Um, but I watched that a few times and then I got into the JFK love story, and I I was hooked, I was obsessed. Um, spoiler alert. I don't know if you've heard.

SPEAKER_00 21:17

What happens?

SPEAKER_03 21:18

I know it doesn't work out very well for them. Uh but no, I um I've I've been obsessed. What else have you been up to? What else is going on?

SPEAKER_01 21:26

I don't even know. I have a house now, so I've been a designer.

SPEAKER_03 21:30

Oh, adulting big adulting big time. I know. Are you buying appliances

Buying A House And Adult Money Stress

SPEAKER_03 21:35

yet?

SPEAKER_01 21:36

Oh, yes, I have.

SPEAKER_03 21:37

I'm not gonna tell you what because I'll tell you what I bought recently, and I've never felt so girl. I bought a deep freezer.

SPEAKER_01 21:42

What?

SPEAKER_03 21:43

I know.

SPEAKER_01 21:44

And it's in your DC apartment.

SPEAKER_03 21:46

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_01 21:47

I'm scared. I'm scared.

SPEAKER_03 21:49

It's my island actually for my kitchen.

SPEAKER_01 21:51

I no, no, no. People walk in and they're like, Jeffrey Dahmer.

SPEAKER_03 21:55

Girl, you got a white refrigerator? Jeffrey Dahmer. It's a good one. So it is hidden discreetly. Okay. So I do have a really large, like double door coat closet with also some storage shelves in it. And um inside that panel, there is inside that closet, there's a panel for like the wire, the Wi-Fi connections. Well, there's an outlet in there. So girl, I fucking pop that panel off.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

Jeremy doesn't care about closet space because he'll just throw his clothes out and be like, oh, I need something new. Ordered.

SPEAKER_03 22:26

Girl. Into the landfill it goes. That's what we call a full circle moment.

SPEAKER_01 22:36

Guys, let's petition. At least use some of the shirts for like, you know, I don't know, to clean your countertop or something. I will do that sometimes. If I have like old socks, I'll like dust things and then I'm like garbage.

SPEAKER_03 22:46

All right, keep in mind.

SPEAKER_01 22:46

They're not dirty. They're clean.

SPEAKER_03 22:47

I do say landfill for the record. I have to set it straight, is I donate a lot of my clothes. Um keeping goodwill alive. I am keeping goodwill and business savers and goodwill. Thank me. Um no, so I have this big double, like double door uh coat closet, like that has a whatever on one side of shelves on the other. I move those shelves around and I got a deep freezer that a pretty good size one that happened to fit perfectly in there. It is a snug fit, but it fits. I plug it in. Girl, I got a deep freezer. And tell me what I did the very next day when I got a deep freezer. I upgraded my Costco membership to executive because now I can buy stuff in bulk. Yes, girl, I never felt more adulting in my life.

SPEAKER_01 23:27

I love that. And I love Costco executive because then you get money back at the end of the year.

SPEAKER_03 23:31

You get money back at the end of the year, and also you get to go into the store an hour early and not be around the plebeians.

SPEAKER_01 23:37

Yep. And you're like, oh, I have a black card.

SPEAKER_03 23:40

Literally.

SPEAKER_01 23:40

Move.

SPEAKER_03 23:41

It's not an Amex black card, but it's still a black card. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 23:44

Exactly. Nobody asks. And I want it.

SPEAKER_03 23:46

Yeah. If somebody asked me to get a black card, I'd be like, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:48

Yeah, I do.

SPEAKER_03 23:49

Yeah. I'd love it. No, I I'm obsessed with going to Costco at 9 a.m. Like people there know how to drive their shopping carts. Yes. This is boring. Not their first day on earth.

SPEAKER_01 23:57

They've done this before.

SPEAKER_03 23:58

But if you have a Costco membership, this is your bit right here. Oh my goodness. But yeah, those are my major adulting things that I've done. I got a deep freezer and an executive Costco membership. Drop the mic.

SPEAKER_01 24:08

Look at that. I've bought a house. Um, I've designed it. I think I still have to backsplash. I was gonna pay someone while we were away because we're gonna be away a lot this month.

SPEAKER_04 24:17

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:17

But I think the little weekend that I'm home, I'm gonna I have date night, not planned by me. But I know he's really good at that. He'll pick me up with flowers. Yeah, he does homeworks.

SPEAKER_03 24:28

So where do I find a man like that? This is Ruffy Anse, by the way.

SPEAKER_01 24:32

Um, maybe West Village.

SPEAKER_03 24:34

I'll go.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

He's gonna come visit. So he says, but we'll see.

SPEAKER_03 24:39

Who's he? Me. I am. Girl, you girl, you say the word and me and Fitzgerald are on the we are on the next one. I still haven't seen him. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 24:48

I've been asking for signs of life. I haven't even gotten a photo.

SPEAKER_03 24:51

Well, don't worry about it. Go meet him. Okay, so you bought a house. I know he's he's in a deep freezer.

SPEAKER_02 25:00

Girl.

SPEAKER_03 25:01

So you bought a house. Uh you're designing. How is that going? That's gotta be a that's a big move, girly pop. I couldn't do it.

SPEAKER_01 25:08

It is. It is. It's been a big goal. I want to get like all sentimental and be like, oh, I did it. One, because it's a goal of mine, but also like women couldn't buy houses at a certain time, right? So I'm like, let me exercise that right. So I bought it by myself. Um, I can say for the first time in my life, I was stressed and actually couldn't sleep. I was supposed to have a tenant, I didn't have a tenant, my heating went, and guess who had to pay for it? Me.

SPEAKER_03 25:32

Seagirl couldn't do it.

SPEAKER_01 25:33

Yeah. And it's like, you've already experienced this before. And it's, you know, I heard someone say this before: your mortgage is the minimum of what you're gonna spend that month.

unknown 25:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

It's not like the maximum, like, oh, I pay my mortgage, I'm done. Nope. It's the minimum what you will spend, and it is stressful, and it's beautiful, and of course, it's like an asset that will build. And now that things have settled and they're better, I feel good about it. But after that one month of high, like, I own a house, I did it. Um, I was I was like, oh, how do I sell this?

SPEAKER_03 26:05

It's like when you buy a car and you let a new car smell, it's amazing. And then after that 60 days of low car payments, you know, that special expires, you get that first car note bill. You're like, the fuck did I just do it?

SPEAKER_01 26:14

Yeah, you're like, I actually don't think this car is that good.

SPEAKER_03 26:16

I don't want this anymore. No, girl. So I I couldn't do it. Uh, I I I bought and sold a house one time. Biggest mistake of my life. Uh probably took some bad advice, and I also probably wasn't financially ready at that time to do it, and I still blew the trigger. Uh, I I can't stand it. I have since been, I grew up living in houses. Um, you know, even even as a young child, my parents were always at least middle class enough to provide us a whole a house. Then I always looked at apartments as I don't want to offend anybody, but growing up, you know, I looked at apartments as like people who maybe couldn't afford a whole a house, which was really wrong of me to do that. But I did. Then I get into like one of my first apartments, and it was the uh like downtown living, and I was like, oh, luxury apartments. Yes. And never looked back.

SPEAKER_01 27:06

No, it's amazing.

SPEAKER_03 27:08

Yeah. I I I never I've never looked back. I get the decent amount of space. It is people want to live there, it's not just people who have to live there. So I mean, the community were a lot of successful and even people, even what you would consider very wealthy, yeah, in were my neighbors, which I adored. Um, if the air conditioner went out, it was a tap-tap on a and asked me how much it cost.

SPEAKER_01 27:32

How much does it cost?

SPEAKER_03 27:33

Zero.

SPEAKER_01 27:34

Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 27:34

Yeah. So I don't think I could go back.

SPEAKER_01 27:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 27:36

I even got an argument uh disagreement, I should say, with um a significant other of mine. I said, like I have many, right? Like so many. No, with with this guy that I was that I alright, a husband, I was getting kind of serious with, and he's really big in investment properties, and he was trying to encourage me to buy, and I was like, no. And we got into a very heated discussion. It was a heated rivalry.

SPEAKER_01 28:02

How did it end?

SPEAKER_03 28:04

Maybe the same, but about how like I have no intention to ever buy, ever. Like, and I keep I just keep comparing it. I'm like, people that grew up in like Chicago or New York or Jersey, they live their entire lives, raise families, and renting apartments. Like, I don't feel like I was like, You grew up in the Midwest, or your American dream is to buy a home.

SPEAKER_01 28:23

It's not mine. Even going to some states that we go to, when I look up the Zillow for certain locations, I'm like, if this is $160,000 now, then like seven years ago, this was probably $70,000. Try to do that in any metro area. It's completely different, at least on the East and West Coast.

SPEAKER_03 28:41

So Yeah, no. Yeah. But um, but that is a really big move.

SPEAKER_01 28:46

Yeah, thanks. It is an investment property. So at some point I think I might rent the apartment that I'm living in. But my tenants are amazing. I have to say, like, I hit the jackpot. I was in a position where I was sort of kind of like, oh, I will let anyone move in here. And that could have been a great mistake, but we made it work.

SPEAKER_03 29:02

Yeah, don't let just anyone in your school. No. Are you? Let me ask you this real quick before we move on. Are you like do you have a property manager or is it just you directly?

SPEAKER_01 29:10

I think just me. I'm not the only one who's like, I guess, having investment properties. My sister has some, my parents have some, and I just see how lucrative it can be. It is a lot of work, but I did help my parents manage their stuff. So I feel like I have, you know, some expertise, you know, in my back pocket.

SPEAKER_03 29:28

That is some big adult moves. I mean that to, well, let's up. I mean, back to adulting. I mean, in the same week that I got a Costco membership in a deep freezer, which does not measure up to buying a house.

SPEAKER_01 29:36

So, what did you buy for it? That's what I want to know.

SPEAKER_03 29:38

The deep freezer? Yeah. Girl, I like to meal prep. It may not look like it because your boy likes to eat other stuff too, but I like to meal prep. And this beautiful apartment that I have has this gorgeous, like uh my the apartment building that I live in is, you know, it's fairly new and it's remodeled. Oh, uh it's an older building, but it's a brand new remodel. So older buildings are great because they're they're spacious, right? Brand new remodels. So they try to make it look like a commercial kitchen. Yeah. So it has this really commercial like refrigerator that ain't got no space inside. The way the shelves are organized and set up, I'm like, I can't do shit in here. Same for the freezer, and I love the meal prep. I don't like to cook every day. I love to cook big elaborate meals for um for entertaining. I love baking, but I am not gonna come home cook every day. I like the meal prep, but I can't fit more than 12 meals in my freezer.

SPEAKER_01 30:24

Do you meal prep the same meal, like everything's already put together and you just pull it out, or do you do like a little chef special?

SPEAKER_03 30:30

I um no, I I make about three to four different meal types at one time. Yeah, put them all, put them in a freezer, and then pull them out as I go. So now that I was able to do that with the deep freezer, I made like 60 meals at one time. It was amazing. I was also able to buy a lot of the foods that I make like in bulk instead of little like little portions.

SPEAKER_04 30:50

So much cheaper.

SPEAKER_03 30:51

Yeah. But anyways, in that same week, I also had to go to the dentist because I had a toothache and I was like crying for my mom. So it's a pendulum.

SPEAKER_01 30:59

Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:59

Adulting, not adulting. God does not bless with both hands.

SPEAKER_01 31:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:03

So another thing that I did recently that I felt really dumb about is girl, you got AirPods?

SPEAKER_00 31:09

Yes.

AirPods Fail And The Real Reason

SPEAKER_03 31:10

Okay. Um, so my AirPod, girl, I felt so stupid. My right AirPod like just like practically stopped working.

SPEAKER_04 31:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 31:18

And I was like, I can't get it to work. I've reset it, it was stuck at a very, very low volume. I was like super annoyed with it. So I was like, fuck it. I went and got an old set of AirPods. The right one was also wasn't working. I'm like, this is annoying. Yeah. I went and got some Galaxy buds that are like probably inadvertently stole an accident. And the right one wasn't working. I'm like, this is so crazy. So then I'm like, fuck it. I'm just gonna go to go to Apple. So I went to Apple and I did my little thing, and they're they're like, oh, like your earbuds, because they have uh like aftermarket earbuds on the ear tips.

SPEAKER_01 31:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 31:48

And they're like, is it the ear? I'm like, no, I already already popped the tip off, cleaned it. That's not the issue. Like, all right, cool. So then they do a little sound test on it, like, you're right, there's no sound. And so I buy a whole new earbud. It was $90 just for one.

SPEAKER_01 32:00

Do you take the old ones to Best Buy? Excuse me? You can sell them at Best Buy, they give you like 30 bucks. Why the fuck? They played you.

SPEAKER_03 32:10

Girl.

SPEAKER_01 32:11

Yeah, they played you.

SPEAKER_03 32:12

Well, I played myself first and they played me or other way around.

SPEAKER_01 32:15

But now you know.

SPEAKER_03 32:15

Okay, good to know. Well, so he brings out the new AirPod, the Airbud, the right side only. Yeah, that was the one that wasn't working, and he goes, Don't forget to take your tip off. So I take the tip off. And I was like, Okay, thank you. He's like, Oh no, that other piece is also yours. I don't remember that my my aftermarket ear tips were in two pieces, and I was like, Oh, and I went and popped it off. Now, this might be gross, listener, but it was coated in so much earwax, and as soon as that happened, I was like, uh-huh, I bet you that's why it's not working. Because I'll go out there and I'll clean it. Yeah, but I didn't know that there was two layers of the tip. And then so I get back to my apartment, I pop off the other one, my left one. There's a little bit, I clean it off, and I'm like, now I have this beautiful earbuds. Yeah, so then I go to my old set that I had from years ago, pop off that right. It was just caked.

SPEAKER_01 33:11

Have you have to go to the ENT and get your wax flushed?

SPEAKER_03 33:14

Yes, apparently I have so of course I get on like the you know, the internet, chat GPT, and I I forget what the word, but I have like a thinner earwax, and it's clearly just in a right ear. Yeah, that's right. Because that's my fourth set of right earbuds to go out.

SPEAKER_01 33:27

Yeah, I went to the ENT when I was in second grade, and they literally put like this tube in your ear, and they just like pull it out, and I was like, this is disgusting, and I can never tell anyone. You guys are the first to know.

SPEAKER_03 33:38

It's our little secret, just between us, just us. Um, yeah, so I I felt like a big boy, but also I was just like, I just played it myself. If I had just known that there was another layer to my ear tips, I would have put it off myself. And so that was my Apple experience. I was pretty I wanted to ask, I was supposed to have this doctor um last week on the show. She's a friend of mine. Um, she ended up having to cancel last second, but I was gonna ask her about what I can do if there's any home remedies to minimize how much earwax I'm producing out of just one ear.

SPEAKER_01 34:09

I don't know. I asked TikTok. TikTok knows.

SPEAKER_03 34:13

So you asked TikTok, I asked Chat GPT, but a lot of people I have a lot of friends who like aren't happy with their chat GPT.

ChatGPT At Work Done Right

SPEAKER_01 34:20

I'm one of them. Tell me why my chat GPT lies. I don't like that it lies, and I have to fact check it, and then I'm like, My ChatGPT has almost never lied to me.

SPEAKER_00 34:32

Do you fact check?

SPEAKER_03 34:33

I I do fact check, but when I am asking it a serious question, I think I know how to make the prompt so legit that I don't give it the opportunity to lie to me. Also, I'm very friendly with it. It has a name. Do you name yours?

SPEAKER_01 34:45

No.

SPEAKER_03 34:45

Oh, my name is Bestie.

SPEAKER_01 34:47

Mine is chat.

SPEAKER_03 34:48

Mine is bestie. I'll be like, hey bestie. And it's like, what's up, bestie? What's it what are you in the mood for today? How are you feeling? And I'll be like, well, I have a question about this. I'm gonna give you a lot of information, can you help me out? So I'm very and I thank it. I say please. Uh I but when I do ask it questions, I'll I'll say, like, you know, I'm looking for an answer on this and needs to be from a legitimate website. Yeah. I will like a source that I'm able to, you know, visit. And it doesn't, it doesn't lie to me.

SPEAKER_01 35:18

I don't know. I've just had experiences where I'm like, this is wrong.

SPEAKER_03 35:23

No, mine has done me really well. I use it for work all the time, which oh my god, let's talk about that.

SPEAKER_01 35:29

Tell me.

SPEAKER_03 35:30

So I use it for chat, I use it for work all the time. And I I work where we have a lot of like sensitive documents, but I'm not dumb. Yeah, I've never once uploaded anything that wasn't public information into it. But a lot of our really hefty manuals and guides and everything are public information. Anyone can go to the internet, type it up, Google it, it's right there. So I have uploaded into that and I use chat to reference things and cite things and answer questions. And next thing you know, I'm the smartest person in the office. Yeah. Cool. No, I'm just using my resources. But even when I do have chat help me write, you know, draft a very specific email. I can write my own emails, guys. Don't worry. But I still go in and I clean it up, tighten it up, and make sure it's still me. Well, the organization that I work for has recently put a massive push out for AI. Yes. Uh Gen AI is what they use. And is that through Microsoft or something? I don't know what it is.

SPEAKER_01 36:27

It has three different options. I think Microsoft is the only one vetted right now because they have our, they give us our Microsoft 365. But they said the other two options will come out.

SPEAKER_03 36:35

Yes. Well, I like Gemini too.

SPEAKER_01 36:37

Wanna put a channel. I haven't used Gemini. I like it.

SPEAKER_03 36:40

I pretty much only use Open AI chat, uh, my homeboy. But the people in my office who are, let's just say, a bit older than you and I are obsessed with it, but they don't know how to go in and clean it up after. And it's so annoying. Cause I'll be like, hey, Bob in accounting, can you uh let me know how many paychecks Sarah got, you know, in 25? Yeah. And and you know, 2025. And instead of getting, oh, she got 104, I get a three-page thesis.

SPEAKER_01 37:09

Yeah, like no, not.

SPEAKER_03 37:10

And I'm like, stop using AI to answer every little question without cleaning it up first.

SPEAKER_01 37:17

So I saw a meme and someone was like, oh, um, when I put the bottom, like, hey, do you want me to write more or a friendlier response? And they'll send that in an email. And I'm like, how careless are you that you're just copying and pasting everything without like reading it over?

SPEAKER_03 37:30

The whole thing. And sometimes you can even see their prompt that they added.

SPEAKER_01 37:33

Yeah, I'm like, you're lazy. Like, this is next. I don't think using chat GBT or any AI is being lazy, but doing that, just copy and pasting, I'm like, you're so lazy.

SPEAKER_03 37:43

Do you want a little secret?

SPEAKER_01 37:44

Tell me.

SPEAKER_03 37:45

So occasionally I will use chat to draft an email or something, and where I would say 80% of it was chat. Mind you, it's all based on my own prompts prompts. But when the email is sounding too good, and I even go in and change some of the words around, I will misspell a couple of words on purpose.

SPEAKER_01 38:02

I don't want to do that. Just so that people Because I always use the M-dash, so it bothers me to use the M dash.

SPEAKER_03 38:10

Girl, you can't bullshit a bullshitter. You tell me you've used the M-dash before chat. I don't believe it. I mean, God God's honest truth right now, I don't believe it.

SPEAKER_01 38:18

I have. I went to Catholic school. Those nouns, they taught me.

SPEAKER_03 38:21

The only people that I've ever heard of using M-dashes before this Chat GPT craze were journalists.

SPEAKER_01 38:28

That makes sense, but no, I used to 100% use the M-dash.

SPEAKER_03 38:32

So I bet you get accused of semicolon.

SPEAKER_01 38:34

Yeah, I try to just not use it. Like I won't purposely write anything incorrectly because then I'm like, you guys are pushing me too far. People know I wouldn't, you know, misspell. But I I feel a way.

SPEAKER_03 38:48

I I've never been, well, one, I've never like fully used chat and claimed it as my own. Like I always go in and clean it up and tighten it up and whatnot. But uh sometimes when it just sounds a little too good, I'm like, I gotta bring it down a notch. Yeah. Um and I don't want to not use it because like it's getting the points across. So I'm like, let me just miss a smaller word. So I'll humanize it. Yeah. Um, but that M-dash girl, that M-dash is a clean giveaway. Yeah. And I tell people all the time.

SPEAKER_01 39:14

I have stopped using it just because I'm like, oh, but sometimes it's just like it has to be there. I want to, but I won't. You know, that's as far as I'll go.

SPEAKER_03 39:21

Okay. I I I don't I don't believe it. I uh I'm gonna have I'm gonna have to go and like dox you and find documents you've wrote. Yeah. I'm gonna go I'm gonna find your MySpace. I'm gonna find your MySpace. And if there's no M dashes, huh?

SPEAKER_01 39:37

I have no MySpace.

SPEAKER_03 39:38

You don't think you did, but I'll find it.

SPEAKER_01 39:40

I wasn't allowed. Oh sad. I used to log into my friends.

SPEAKER_03 39:43

Oh, cute. I'm gonna find it. I'm gonna find it. Um, but no, this AI, I am obsessed with it. I love it. Yeah, but yeah. Um, girl, one more thing before we go.

SPEAKER_04 39:53

Tell me.

SPEAKER_03 39:54

So I'm sitting at the hotel bar, and have you ever heard of you probably have, I'm so behind a curve, Lush?

SPEAKER_00 39:59

Yes.

Lush Skincare Treat And Goodbyes

SPEAKER_03 40:00

I knew you would have. I'm so behind a curve. Well, I was like, this sounds amazing. She tells me all about it, and she's telling me about all the masks and lotions and potions and how it's like minimally processed and minor ingredients, and they have a little sticker and told you who packaged it. And five-year-old a little sticker who packaged this mask that she gave me for free. I was told, I told okay, the girl, so the listener, this hotel that I stay at when I'm traveling here to Iowa treats me like royalty. They love him. It is a higher scale hotel, it is in the burbs, and uh the front desk people are amazing. Shout out to them. But they walked up today and she was telling me all about it. And I was like, we, I was like, me and my friend were just today talking about doing masks. And she's like, Oh, I'll be right back. And she hands me this tub. Oh my god cupcake fresh face mask. And she's like, You guys enjoy this. And she told me all about it. That is so I got a little treat for us.

SPEAKER_01 41:03

We I love that.

SPEAKER_03 41:04

Yeah, I am super excited.

SPEAKER_01 41:06

I have a lush at the mall.

SPEAKER_03 41:07

I I I found that out by by her. We could go. I am so lazy.

SPEAKER_01 41:11

I want you to have a lush experience.

SPEAKER_03 41:13

We have to go.

SPEAKER_01 41:13

They'll massage your hands and be like, This is what this does. And then they go and put some moisturizer on. You would like it.

SPEAKER_03 41:20

I'm we're gonna go.

SPEAKER_01 41:21

She's very loved anywhere we go, which I mean, why not? Obviously.

SPEAKER_03 41:25

I hate to say it, but it's true.

SPEAKER_01 41:26

He could do like a political run. Come on.

SPEAKER_03 41:29

And my skeletons come out of the closet. Are you kidding me? Who cares? Well, nowadays anybody can do anything.

SPEAKER_01 41:34

Yeah, exactly. It was AI. I was never there.

SPEAKER_03 41:36

I saw a little ring that I want to buy. I haven't told you, I don't think I've told you about this. It's uh it's a ring that you wear. You they have it in all different skin tones. Okay, and you wear it over any finger, and it's actually another finger on top of it. So it makes it look like you have six fingers. So they say do that whenever you're committing your crime, because whenever they get it on camera, you just say that's AI, like I have six fingers, six fingers.

SPEAKER_01 41:57

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 41:58

I didn't even know that was a thing.

SPEAKER_03 42:00

Oh my goodness. Um, well, Stephanie.

SPEAKER_00 42:04

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 42:05

Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm gonna have to have you back. I cannot wait. Um, I'm starving though, so I gotta eat before I get hangry. Stephanie, uh, if the listeners want to find you on social media, where can they find you?

SPEAKER_01 42:18

Okay, on Insta S C L underscore X0. Ooh, that's given my spades.

SPEAKER_03 42:24

I it totally is. And listen, you know where to find me at BJ All Day on Instagram. And don't forget to follow the podcast at Dose of Delusion. Thanks for joining me today, Stephanie. I can't wait to have you back. And listeners, you guys have a great time. Bye bye now.